Session Six Fear Theme Threat of harm actual imagined expected anticipated misperceived Psychological or physical pain Evolutionary Loss of physical support or o bject moving rapidly into visual field ID: 529344
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Cultivating Emotional BalanceSession SixSlide2Slide3
Fear Theme
Threat of harm, actual, imagined, expected, anticipated, misperceived
Psychological or physical pain
Evolutionary: Loss of physical support
or o
bject
moving rapidly into visual field
Most of what we are afraid of is learned
Preset
actions:
Freezing
Fleeing
In most other primates, freezing occurs first, if threat still there then flees
Fear and anger easily alternate and fighting might be a response motivated by anger mixed with fearSlide4
Surprise
Briefest of emotions – typically less than 1 sec
Is a weigh-station rather than endpoint
Quickly converted in to anger, fear, disgust, enjoyable emotion
Must be both sudden and unexpected – something out of context
All refer to things beyond the norm
Focuses attention on novel eventSlide5
Ordinary mental states:
Sensual craving
:
craving
and grasping onto
someone or something to make us happy. The experience of lust has the quality of “being on fire from within.”
Ill-will
:
a narrowing of perception that falsely identifies someone or something as 100% undesirable and an ultimate source of unhappiness.
Debilitating doubt
: doubt
or agitation and has the quality of “being hopelessly entangled in a net.”
Dullness
:
laziness and lethargy
Restlessness and worry
:
dispersed or dissipated attentionSlide6Slide7
Disgust ThemeBiological theme
:
a
sense of oral incorporation of something that is deemed offensive and contaminating
P
reset behaviour
: to regurgitate/turn away/avoid
S
ocial disgust
: reject something offensiveSlide8
Cross-cultural differences in major trigger
In Japan, person who criticizes others or does not fit into the group
In USA, person who acts brutally or is racistSlide9
Fed-up DisgustHusband stonewalls wife’s anger, wife’s reaction is disgust
“I am fed up” – disgust
W
hen anger gets replaced by disgust an intimate relationship is in serious danger
H
ighly predictive marriage will not surviveSlide10
Suspension of disgust in intimacy
O
ne of the characteristics of a loving relationship is the ability to suspend disgust
F
or partners and family: sexual intimacy, dealing with excrement etc.
F
or intimate friends: admitting weaknesses, shortcomings, failings assumes there is a suspension of disgust
“Love privileges another to see us in ways that would shame us and disgust others without the intervention of love” William Miller,
The Anatomy of Disgust
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FunctionsPhysical function
: to eject, repulse something potentially harmful
Social function
: suspension of disgust establishes intimacy and is a mark of personal commitment. May not just be a mark of love, but a way of strengthening love.
Disgust motivates and justifies
genocide
. Use of terms like vermin, scum, lice.Slide12
DisgustSlide13Slide14
Contempt
Signals the feeling of being superior, of not needing to accommodate or engage
A
sserts power or status
T
hose uncertain about their status may be more likely to manifest contempt to assert superiority over others
P
rimarily aimed at people
Synonyms: disdain, morally superior, condescension towards
I
n disgust, want to get away from object, but not necessarily in contemptSlide15Slide16Slide17
Can be very harmful to targetWives of husbands who show contempt when trying to resolve marriage problem believed problems could not be resolved, marital problems severe
Had more physical illness in subsequent 4 years (not apparent for wives of anger or disgust)Slide18Slide19
Reflecting on the Four Virtues of the Heart
Loving-kindness:
Far enemy: hatred
Near enemy: self-centered attachment
Succeeds: when it makes animosity subsideSlide20
Compassion
Far enemy: cruelty
Near enemy: despair or overwhelm
Succeeds: when cruelty subsides
Empathetic Joy
Far enemy: envy and cynicism
Near enemy: fixation on hedonic pleasure
Succeeds: an uplifting appreciation of virtue
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EquanimityFar enemy: attachment and aversion
Near enemy: cold or aloof indifference
Succeeds: when attachment and aversion towards others subsidesSlide22
Interrelationships of Four Virtues of the HeartIf loving-kindness succumbs to self-centered attachment, meditate on equanimity
If compassion succumbs to despair, meditate on empathetic joy
If empathetic joy succumbs to fixation on hedonic pleasures, meditate on loving-kindness
If equanimity succumbs to aloof indifference, meditate on compassionSlide23
In small groups discuss:
In moving forward
discuss how
you plan to use some of the tools of CEB in your everyday life…Slide24
Becoming Aware of the Affect Program Through RAIN
R
:
Recognize
what is happening
A
:
Allow
life to be just as it is
I
:
Investigate
inner experience with a caring presence
N
:
Non-identificationSlide25Slide26
Life Exploration
Utilize RAIN during emotional episodes
Continue building inner resources through the daily cultivation of the heart and mind
Continue to develop emotional awareness by becoming more and more familiar with the components of the Emotional Episode Timeline as they manifest in your own life, especially triggers and emotional regulation
Uplift others through the power of kindness and compassionSlide27