Understanding Bereavement & Grief - PowerPoint Presentation

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Understanding Bereavement & Grief

Unit 1.1

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Aims and Objectives

Understand how circumstances of death might affect grief

Consider theories on the cycle of grief

Discuss theories of loss (why do we grieve at all?)

Understand how faith and culture affects grief

Consider the role of the funeral service

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Grief …

… is the price we pay …

… for love.

H.M. Queen Elizabeth II, 20.9 .2001

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Determinants of Grief

Who the deceased person was

The nature of the relationship of the bereaved and deceased people

Previous history of bereavement

The bereaved person’s social network

The bereaved person’s faith position

Manner of death

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Some others that come up

Emotional / intellectual capacity

Geographical proximity

Dependence on deceased

Motivation

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What does this tell us?

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Types of grief

anticipatory grief

Where it is known that a death will occur

Grief

Where death has occurred

unresolved grief

Further bereavement occurs before one has been processed

complicated/traumatic/abnormal griefWhich can take various forms

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Be clear on the difference

Theories of loss

Why we grieve at all

Models of grief

The form our grief takes

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Who said this?

”In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.“

Benjamin Franklin

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John Bowlby’s Attachment Theory

When separation occurs three things follow:

Protest

“This is not happening.”

Despair

“Okay, this is happening.”

Detachment “So it happened.”

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The Assumptive World

Things are the way we expect them to be

This enables us to plan for things

Death, even when expected, can overturn these assumptions

A new world of assumptions will in time be created

Dr Colin Murray-Parkes

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Structures of Meaning

No one likes change

Order provides control

We understand the world as it is and our place in it

We apply our own understanding to things as they relate to us

Death undermines that structure

Peter Marris

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And now:

Models

of grief

Remember: this is

how

we grieve,

and is different to why

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Bereavement Models: Kübler-Ross 5 Stages

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Extended Kübler-Ross

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Models of Grief: Murray-Parkes

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Models of Grief: Worden’s Four Tasks

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The Erratic Grief Cycle

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Strobe and

Schut’s

Dual Process Model

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Richard Wilson: Whirlpool of Grief

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Judaism

Islam

Baháʼí

Christianity

Zoroastrianism

Hinduism

Buddhism

Rastafarian

Humanist

Scientology

Shinto

Falun Gong

Sikh

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Threefold function

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Function of the funeral

Psychological

It allows emotion to be expressed, assisting mourning

Sociological

Providing a forum for shared experience

Religious and Spiritual

Meeting the requirements of faith for deceased and bereavedPhilosophical

The bereaved and the wider community can reflect on life and death

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Dr Alan Wolfelt: Purpose of the funeral

Reality

Funerals help us begin to truly acknowledge the reality that someone in our life has died.

Recall

Funerals encourage us to remember the person who died and share our unique memories with others, creating hope for the future

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SupportFunerals bring together people who care about each other in an atmosphere of love and support.

ExpressionFunerals allow us to express our inner thoughts and feelings about the life and the death.MeaningFunerals mark the significance of the life that was lived. They also help us find meaning and purpose in our continued living, even in the face of loss.

TranscendenceUltimately, funerals help us embrace the wonder of life and death.

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