PrfDip HRM ACIPM ASM POSITIVE SELF ESTEEM amp CONFIDENCE BUILDING WHO AM I Positive Self Esteem amp Confidence Building MAN KNOW THYSELF Aristottle You cant build what you dont know ID: 271630
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ByGBENGA RUFAI Prf.Dip.(HRM), ACIPM, ASM
POSITIVE SELF ESTEEM & CONFIDENCE BUILDINGSlide2
WHO AM I?
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence Building
MAN KNOW
THYSELF-
Aristottle
You can’t build what you don’t know.
How do you build
SELF
esteem when you don’t even know
your
SELF
?Slide3
SOMETHING OR SOMEONE DEFINES EVERYONE OF US
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence Building
CLASS TEACHER: Brilliant or Dullard (Depending on your Academic performance in class)
PARENTS: Good or Bad Child (Depending on your
behaviour
)
FRIENDS: Sharp or Mumu (depending on how you fit in)
GOD & HIS WORD: A World changer (Based on his purpose for you)Slide4
THE SIAMESE TWINS
Self Esteem & Confidence
are like
siamese
twins joined together.If you try to separate them, you stand the risk of killing the otherPositive Self Esteem & Confidence BuildingSlide5
BASICS : What is Self Esteem?
It is a mental picture of who we are, how we look, what we are good at & our weakness.
It is developed overtime and based on interactions we have with people and our experiences
It is simply a SELF PERCEPTION
i.e
How We See OurselvesYOUR LEVEL OF SELF ESTEEM WOULD DETERMINE YOUR LEVEL OF CONFIDENCEYou cannot build confidence if your self esteem is low or negative
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence BuildingSlide6
Types of Self Esteem
POSITIVE
or GOOD or HIGH Self Esteem
NEGATIVE or BAD or LOW Self Esteem
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence BuildingSlide7
The Esteem – Confidence Equation
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence Building
LOW/NEGATIVE SELF ESTEEM =
LOW CONFIDENCE
HIGH/POSITIVE SELF ESTEEM= HIGH CONFIDENCESlide8
Positive Self Esteem
They feel good about themselves, appreciate their own worth, take pride in their abilities skills & accomplishment.
Knows he/she has shortcomings
Doesn't focus or beat himself up about it
They love themselves
They carry a positive estimation about themselves Someone with a Positive self esteem will
Excel in lifeAchieve great resultsMeet & Attract Great people
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence BuildingSlide9
Effects of Having a Low Self Esteem
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence Building
Females will fall into the hands of wrong men
You would
settle for less in lifeYou would always be behindYou would
bow to those younger to youYou would suffer and miss opportunities Slide10
The Acid Test
Do you feel your friends are better than you?
Do you sometimes refuse to say your mind because you feel your point is not good enough? Or because the last time you did, you were talked down?
Do you feel people won’t make friends with you because of the way you look?
Are you scared of looking at people in the face when talking to them?
Do you always wish you were like a friend of yours because of her/his looks or stature?Do you avoid speaking to an audience because you are scared?
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence BuildingSlide11
The Acid Test …
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence Building
Do you always wish you could change some parts of your body attributes?
e.g
Big Eyes, Height, Complexion etc
Do your parents or guardian always tell you that you are not good enough or brilliant enough and you think they are right?Slide12
CAUSES OF LOW SELF ESTEEM
When people that are important to you put you down consistently
e.g
Parents, mentors- Your are too fat, You never do well, you are too sluggish, You are a dullard etc
Negative inner voice (SELF CONDEMNATION)- Poor me, I know I cant pass, its not for people like me
Unrealistic expectations from yourselfYou don’t admire your qualities (I am too short, I have a big nose, my eyes are too big etc)Rejection (the opposite sex you like doesn’t like you)Been harshly criticized
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence BuildingSlide13
The Way Forward:
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence Building
View your mistakes as learning opportunities
Try new activities (
something you are good at
)
e.g If you cant play football, play chess or scrabble. Piano or konga
drum
Recognize things you can change and those you cant, like parts of your body, your family
e.g
Omo
Baba
Give back to others TEACH SOMEONE THE LITTLE YOU KNOW. You would feel good. Nobody knows it all
Stop comparisons.
BE YOU!!!
Someone admires you
Identify your strengths (Ask from people what you do well)
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The Way Forward…
Identify the triggers & avoid it (negative friends, crisis etc)
Stop trying to please others
Silence the negative inner voice with Gods Word
I AM FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE
I AM THE HEAD NOT THE TAILI WAS CREATED IN GODS IMAGEYOU MAY NOT LIKE ME BUT GOD DOESI AM ROYALTY
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SOME TIPS ON BUILDING CONFIDENCE
Everybody is born fearful, even courageous people.
It is normal to be afraid but abnormal to remain fearful
Sometimes the only way to deal with fear is to face it. (When you don’t have a choice, you would sort it).
Identify the areas where you lack confidence (facing the crowd, public speaking etc)
RehearseThere is always a first time to everything you doLooking good aids your confidence level- Dress WellKnowledge aids your confidence level- READ
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CLOSING LINES
Anything taller than me is too tall
Anything shorter than me is too short
Anything fatter than me is too fat
Anything thinner than me is too thin
Anything darker than me is too darkAnything fairer than me is too fairPositive Self Esteem & Confidence BuildingSlide17
Positive Self Esteem & Confidence Building