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The Power of Nice

“How to conquer the world with kindness”

Book by Linda Kaplan


& Robin




My Journey

Makeup of audience


Objective: To share and hopefully assist you in your important work everyday as a SAM/Principal team or someone who supports Pre-school-12



When you hear the word “nice” what do you think of?

Meet the Parents video clip


Common Views of Nice

“Nice guys/gals finish last”

“No good deed goes unpunished”

“Me vs. You philosophy wins the day”

“Nice people don’t get the corner office”

“Nice is consider wimpy, passive,



What does it really mean?

Nice is not being naïve

Nice does not mean others walk all over you

Nice does not mean being a doormat

Todd Whitaker– “Treat everyone as if they are good”

“Nice is the toughest four-letter word you’ll even hear- it means moving forward with confidence from knowing that being nice and placing others’ needs on same level as your own will get you everything you want”


Jim Sorenson- “Fierce Conversations”

Can you be “nice” and still have those fierce conversations?


We can and should have fierce conversations at times

Our careers, our schools, our districts succeed or fail gradually and then suddenly, one conversation at a time

The conversation IS the relationship (we build emotional capital through deposits or withdrawals all day long)

All conversations are with myself and sometimes they involve other people.


Six Power of Nice Principles

Positive impressions are like seeds- Importance of how people are greeted each time they come into your school

Lays the groundwork for many opportunities down the road

You never know – Chris L., health care, etc.

Treat everyone you meet as if they are the most important person in the world- because they are

People change

No idea who might become important to you 10, 20, 30 years from now

Nice must be automatic– Make it part of who you are

Small gestures and actions can have an enormous impact

Negative impressions are like germs-- poison

Impressions are in the eye of the beholder

You will know

Value niceness, in yourself and in others, the same way we respect intelligence, beauty, or talent


Nice Tools

Exercise your niceness muscles

Be a “best supporting actor”

Model yourself after the kind of person you admire

Hold a networking party (e.g., SAM conf.)

Make a difference (pass it on)

Throw out the scorecard

Flash a smile

Mimic the masters (make others laugh)

Offer a sweet

Say something genuinely nice to the person who irritates you the most

List your fiercest rivals- think of one thing you can do to help that person

Designate one day a week as a “gossip free” day

Go on a truth diet

Have the courage to be honest

Take off your mask

Play “and then what will happen”


Mimic the Masters

Make others laughVideo clips: Lucille Ball, Change Therapy, Snow


Become an active audience member

Find the “yes” in the “no”



--- validate, a thousand yeses, solution

Zip your lip and listen to others

Honor your debts- Those who got you to where you are

Irritation is the mother of invention (find solutions to complaints of others)

Star in someone else’s movie

Find the feeling


Finish the Following Sentences…

I never would have made it to where I am without….I owe a great debt to….I take courage from….My greatest teacher was…..None of us gets ahead on our own!!

“Honor Your Debts”


Most Important Skill for Anyone Who Wants to Harness the Power of Nice

Ability to put yourself in someone else’s place

Empathetic people are superb at recognizing and meeting the needs of clients, customers, and subordinates.

The seem approachable

They listen

They praise others for their successes

They try to see the other person’s “movie”

Remember the words of Todd Whitaker– Treat everyone as if they are good (even if you know they aren’t always)


Leadership is the art of getting others to do something that you want done because they want to do it. Dwight D. Eisenhower

Administrators Dancing VideoRead ending of book