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Slide1
The Power of Nice
“How to conquer the world with kindness”
Book by Linda Kaplan
Thaler
& Robin
Koval
Slide2
Introductions/Acknowlegments
My Journey
Makeup of audience
Welcome
Objective: To share and hopefully assist you in your important work everyday as a SAM/Principal team or someone who supports Pre-school-12
educaiton
Slide3
When you hear the word “nice” what do you think of?
Meet the Parents video clip
Slide4
Common Views of Nice
“Nice guys/gals finish last”
“No good deed goes unpunished”
“Me vs. You philosophy wins the day”
“Nice people don’t get the corner office”
“Nice is consider wimpy, passive,
pollyanna
Slide5
What does it really mean?
Nice is not being naïve
Nice does not mean others walk all over you
Nice does not mean being a doormat
Todd Whitaker– “Treat everyone as if they are good”
“Nice is the toughest four-letter word you’ll even hear- it means moving forward with confidence from knowing that being nice and placing others’ needs on same level as your own will get you everything you want”
Slide6
Jim Sorenson- “Fierce Conversations”
Can you be “nice” and still have those fierce conversations?
Absolutely
We can and should have fierce conversations at times
Our careers, our schools, our districts succeed or fail gradually and then suddenly, one conversation at a time
The conversation IS the relationship (we build emotional capital through deposits or withdrawals all day long)
All conversations are with myself and sometimes they involve other people.
Slide7
Six Power of Nice Principles
Positive impressions are like seeds- Importance of how people are greeted each time they come into your school
Lays the groundwork for many opportunities down the road
You never know – Chris L., health care, etc.
Treat everyone you meet as if they are the most important person in the world- because they are
People change
No idea who might become important to you 10, 20, 30 years from now
Nice must be automatic– Make it part of who you are
Small gestures and actions can have an enormous impact
Negative impressions are like germs-- poison
Impressions are in the eye of the beholder
You will know
Value niceness, in yourself and in others, the same way we respect intelligence, beauty, or talent
Slide8
Nice Tools
Exercise your niceness muscles
Be a “best supporting actor”
Model yourself after the kind of person you admire
Hold a networking party (e.g., SAM conf.)
Make a difference (pass it on)
Throw out the scorecard
Flash a smile
Mimic the masters (make others laugh)
Offer a sweet
Say something genuinely nice to the person who irritates you the most
List your fiercest rivals- think of one thing you can do to help that person
Designate one day a week as a “gossip free” day
Go on a truth diet
Have the courage to be honest
Take off your mask
Play “and then what will happen”
Slide9
Mimic the Masters
Make others laughVideo clips: Lucille Ball, Change Therapy, Snow
Slide10
Become an active audience member
Find the “yes” in the “no”
Mark
Shellinger
--- validate, a thousand yeses, solution
Zip your lip and listen to others
Honor your debts- Those who got you to where you are
Irritation is the mother of invention (find solutions to complaints of others)
Star in someone else’s movie
Find the feeling
Slide11
Finish the Following Sentences…
I never would have made it to where I am without….I owe a great debt to….I take courage from….My greatest teacher was…..None of us gets ahead on our own!!
“Honor Your Debts”
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Most Important Skill for Anyone Who Wants to Harness the Power of Nice
Ability to put yourself in someone else’s place
Empathetic people are superb at recognizing and meeting the needs of clients, customers, and subordinates.
The seem approachable
They listen
They praise others for their successes
They try to see the other person’s “movie”
Remember the words of Todd Whitaker– Treat everyone as if they are good (even if you know they aren’t always)
Slide13
Leadership is the art of getting others to do something that you want done because they want to do it. Dwight D. Eisenhower
