The Human Relations Approach lt3 lt3 lt3 lt3 lt3 Interview with Jane Background Information from Interviewee Jane is a single parent of college student Polly Janes daughter came out during college as a lesbian ID: 488223
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Lipstick Lesbians
The Human Relations ApproachSlide2
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Interview with Jane
Background Information
from Interviewee
Jane is a single parent of college student, Polly.
Jane’s daughter came out during college as a lesbian.
Jane grew up on Long Island, New York and came from a very conservative family.
Polly told her mother that she
had always been aware of her sexual orientation, however she tried to ignore her true feelings in the hopes of living a “normal life.
” She wanted to marry a man and have kids.
Polly is now 23 years old and she has been dating the same girl for three years. Only her mother,
and two best friends know how she identifies and that she has a girlfriend.
Jane is supportive of Polly’s sexual orientation, however she does secretly wish that her daughter would have a relationship with a man.
She wants to avoid the family’s reaction and would love grandchildren. She tries her best to keep those feelings from Polly.Slide4
Interview with Jane
What is the hardest part about identifying as a lesbian for Polly?
Polly said that the hardest part is living in secret when
she is so in love with someone she feels that she should be able to be happy proudly. However, she is afraid of losing her friendships and family.
It is hard to talk about any problems that you
are having because your support system is not that large.
People
don’t understand how hard it is to come out and to
be comfortable with your sexuality.
Boys don’t understand that you are not interested in them because you are “too pretty.”
People are constantly asking you why you don’t have a boyfriend, which becomes frustrating.
Resources for lipstick lesbians are just starting to become more apparent in the media.Slide5
Interview with Jane
What were some issues that Polly faced in school or college?
Living in a straight world where everything taught is assuming heterosexuality.
Always hearing friends make judgmental comments about lesbians without realizing that they are standing next to one.
Isolation and always feeling different or not normal.
Depression sometimes is very high. Sometimes it would be very hard for Polly to focus on her school work because she would get really upset and have trouble dealing with the depression and stress.
Having a crush on your friend and not knowing if it is mutual. Sometimes you never say anything because you would have to out yourself and may ruin the friendship all at once.Slide6
Interview with Jane
What could be changed in the education system to help students like Polly?
Teaching students about sexual orientation should start in elementary school. Students should also be taught that it is okay for them to love who they want to love regardless of gender.
Resources need to be more readily available for students who identify within the LGBT community. Students, like Polly, feel alone, when there are plenty of other people going through the same thing.
Families and friends should be encouraged to partake in LBGT events because they never know who identifies as what and it helps that they are already comfortable and knowledgeable prior to someone coming out to them.Slide7
Why Human Relations Approach?
The Human Relations Approach works toward:
Increasing tolerance and decreasing discrimination
Decrease in bullying and teasing
Eliminating Stereotypes (Which is essential for this group)
Teaches public how to interact with the minority group involved
Focuses on making sure that each individual feels good about him/herself
Helps people connect an issue to a person that they care about and share a connection withSlide8
Get the
Mem – Some are Femme
Program Overview:
For many individuals, when a person thinks of a lesbian, they think of the stereotypical butch female that is into women. They are conditioned to think of these individuals as manly women who cut their hair short and wear boys clothing. The purpose of this program is to not only help to eliminate the stereotype of “all lesbians are butch,” but also to help those students who may fall into the LGBT community to self identify. This series of events within Femme Week is created to create a more understanding and knowledgeable community on campus through the Human Relations Approach.Slide9
Program #1: Wall of Hate
Bring your designer shoe box and help eliminate hate!Slide10
Wall of hate
Femme Week 2014
In this program the facilitator hands each student a shoebox with a piece of colored paper taped around it. The instructor has the students think of a word to place on the shoebox that that individual personally finds offensive. As the students place the word on the shoebox that personally offends them, they are to go up to the table and build a tower from the cups. Once the tower is built everyone is to sit down. The facilitator then asks each student to tell the group which shoebox is theirs, and to explain why that particular word or phrase offends them personally. After each individual has had time to speak, the facilitator then explains that the purpose of the activity is to make the community before us more aware of how certain words affect certain people. The facilitator then explains how these words all together create a community full of ignorance and hate. With that the instructor asks the students to knock down the tower, destroying the wall of hate, and taking a step towards being a more understanding and aware leader in the community.Slide11
“Getting It”
Featuring Jenna AnneSlide12
Getting It
Femme Week 2014
In this program we want to focus on what it means to be gay. There are many topics that this
Youtube
Sensation, Jenna Anne, is able to relay to her viewers. She is insightful and has helped thousands of teens to understand homosexuality and come to terms with loving themselves. Her videos help to
explan
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How do I know if I am gay?
How do I come out to my friends?
How do I come out to my family?
How can I accept myself?
Gaydar
: How do I know if she is gay?
How do I meet a girl?
The male response to lipstick lesbians.Slide13
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lfHRWCmP0Qg&list=PLTE790-93t_QYnAu8zSfjqgiJATHSSREA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HpQxkDqnNac&index=4&list=PLTE790-93t_QYnAu8zSfjqgiJATHSSREA
How to Not Be Afraid:
How Do I Find the Courage to Come Out?
How Can You Be Sure that You are Gay?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hk96PzQtVVc&list=PLTE790-93t_QYnAu8zSfjqgiJATHSSREA&index=16Slide14
Femmes in the Media:
Popcorn will be served!Slide15
Femmes in the Media
Femme Week 2014
One of the easiest ways for individuals to understand the LGBT community is for them to visually get used to it, but also to understand how that person who identifies as gay feels. Through the movies that will be presented, students at the university will be able to see people coming to terms with their sexuality and falling in love with the same sex. All of the characters are feminine lesbians, which can help to conquer the stereotype that society tends to have regarding the issue.
For some students, seeing two feminine lesbians together may help them to see that it is possible that just because that student has no desire to dress manly or to cut their hair, that they too could fall into the LGBT community.Slide16
Tell Your Story
It’s now a time where students can share their coming out story.
Many times it is difficult for someone to relate to a group of minority individuals, without feeling there is something linking them to the group. Through this program, students can hear from their fellow classmates the struggle they faced coming to terms with their sexuality. The students can not only understand the LGBT community better, but now also have a person that they will think of when they hear hateful words spoken, hopefully motivating them to speak up.
The program would call for pre-planning and having students sign up for time slots to tell their story. After the story has been told there would be a two minute question and answer period. Slide17
Become Certified:
Safespace TrainingSlide18
Safespace certification
Femme Week 2014
Now that students have had the chance to learn about the Lipstick Lesbian Community and themselves. Now is the time to encourage them to learn about the LGBT community as a whole. These students may be interested in how they can become a part of the more progressive era and how they can understand the society around them better.
The
Safespace
training is a 3 hour course that teaches students and staff all about transgender,
transexual
, lesbian, gay and bisexual individuals. After the course is complete, the students will receive a sticker showing that they are a certified resource and helping hand for anyone who is struggling within the LGBT community.