Siblings Sibling Relationships - PowerPoint Presentation

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Siblings

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Sibling Relationships

*Siblings are Brothers

and

Sisters

(

I

ncluding

Step and Half)

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Sibling Roles

Playmate

Companion

Teacher

Learner

Protector

DependentRole Model

IntimidatorBrown-noserAggressorVictimTattle-taleBabyAdversary

*Siblings play many roles throughout our lives:

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Next to the parent-child relationship, the sibling relationship is probably the

strongest.

They have deep sharing of

emotions

.

Teaching and

socializing

is often the role of the older brother or sister.The older sibling is not only a teacher, but a caretaker and companion.

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Sibling Rivalry

Competition

or

jealousy

among children of the same family for their parents’ affections or for dominance.

It is extremely

common and it sometimes persists into adult life.

What is Sibling Rivalry?

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Sibling Rivalry

Age

Developmental stage

Personality

Need for

attention

from parentsNeed for protection from parents

What are common causes of sibling rivalry?

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Do you have siblings? How many? Name and describe

. What

role does each of your siblings play in your family?

How is your relationship with each sibling?

How does your sibling relationships affected your family?

How can your sibling relationships affect your career?

How can your sibling relationships affect the community?

Sibling Relationship Questionnaire

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Birth O

rder

The

order

in which you and your siblings are

born

.Can have an impact on your personality

and development.

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Things to Remember about Birth Order:

There are exceptions in every trait.

Focus on positive traits of each birth order.

Become aware of your uniqueness

Use the information to understand yourself, siblings and others.

Do not use traits as labels or stereotypes.

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The Oldest Child

These children quickly learn how to please their parents- becoming conscientious, organized and reliable and serving as surrogate parents to younger parents.

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Oldest Child Characteristics:

Guinea pigs

Perfectionists

Reliable

Conscientious

List makers

Well-organized

Critical

ScholarlyLoyal

Serious

Goal-oriented

People pleasers

Conservative

Supporters of law and order

Believers in authority and ritual

Self-

reliant

Controlling

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Top Careers for First-Borns

Government

Engineering

Information Technology

Science

100% of Astronauts who’ve gone into

space were either eldest children or eldest sons

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Famous First-Borns

Oprah Winfrey

O

ne of the most influential and wealthy women in the world.

Walter Cronkite

F

amously reported the assassination of President JFK AND the 1969 moon Landing.

Winston Churchill

O

ne of the greatest wartime leaders in history.

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The Middle Child

Difficult to categorize, they avoid being boxed in and have a more go-with-the-flow attitude than their older siblings. They tend to be unbiased and levelheaded and are good at negotiations, most likely from playing mediator between their siblings.

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Middle

Child Characteristics:

Independent

Loyal to peer group

Good

friends

Finds companionship outside the home

Sometimes feels left out of their own familyFollows the crowd

Competes for attentionPeacemakerSomewhat Rebellious

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Top careers for middle and second children

Public Service

Education

Law Enforcement

Caretaking

Construction

65% of middle children put money into their savings accounts each month.

They are also more likely to be asked for money from a sibling.

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Famous Middle Children

Barbara Walters

First women to co-host a nightly evening news show.

John F. Kennedy

P.O.T.U.S 1961-1963.

Martin Luther King JR

Leader of the

c

ivil rights movement.

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The Youngest Child

“The Baby”

These children usually receive the least discipline, the fewest responsibilities and the biggest audience. As a result of being babied, they tend to be tender and altruistic. They learn that being funny and adorable gains attention and approval.

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Youngest Characteristics

Manipulative

Charming

Blame others

Shows off

People persons

Good salespersons

Uncomplicated

Self-CenteredFun-LovingOutgoing

Messy

Class clowns

Attention-Seeking

Personable

Manipulators

Affectionate

Absentminded

Carefree

Not taken seriously

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Top Careers For Youngest Children

Design

Editing

Writing

Sales

Art

Information Technology

85% of youngest children suffer from nightmares.

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Famous Youngest Children

Mark Twain

American author and humorist.

Stephen Colbert

Newsman and youngest of 11 siblings.

Prince Harry

Youngest of the two English Princes.

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The Only Child

These children are typically mature for their age due to time spent with adults. Many are high achievers, with a few rebelling and following their own path.

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Only Child Characteristics

Mature

Perfectionist

Conscientious

Diligent

High Academic Achievement

OrganizedPays attention to detail

Confident

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Top Careers For Only Children

Law Enforcement

Information Technology

Nursing

Engineering

18% of households are one-child families

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Famous Only Children

Elvis Presley

The best-selling solo artist in the history of music.

Frank Sinatra

Defined an entire genre of popular music.

Franklin D. Roosevelt

Longest serving P.O.T.U.S.

1933-1945

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Making Your Birth Order Work for You

The following slides have some suggestions for making your birth order work in your best interest.

People who are wise learn to make their birth order work for them and to their advantage.

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Tips for the

First Born Child

Don

’

t overextend yourself

Learn to say no—you can

’

t do everythingDon’t expect so much from yourself. You don’t have to be perfect.Don’

t be afraid of being a detail person.Take problem solving step-by-step

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Tips for the

First Born Child

Don

’

t let others pressure you into making decisions. Take your time.

Try to develop a sense of humor and laugh at your mistakes.

Never apologize for being conscientious or over organized.

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Tips for the Middle Child

Use your people skills to see both sides of issues and deal with life as it really is.

If you are a free spirit, fight to keep your unique qualities.

Middle children grow up thinking that no one ever listened to them and they never had a chance to express their ideas. Share your ideas!

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Tips for the Middle Child

Enjoy your many friends, but don

’

t spread yourself too thin.

Don

’

t compare yourself to others—just be you!

Don’t think only firstborns are leaders; you understand, negotiate, and compromise. Try being a leader!

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Tips for the Youngest Child

Accept responsibility for yourself!

Many

lastborn

are messy; learn to pick up after yourself.

Choose jobs where you interact with people because you will do well!

Be less self-centered and offer to help others.

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Tips for the Youngest Child

Don

’

t blame others if you

’

re the one who really caused the situation.

Your gift of humor will be an asset; use it correctly. Don

’t be an attention seeker.Give others a chance to share the limelight. Concentrate on asking others about them!Lastborn tend to be the most compatible.

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WHAT IS YOUR TEACHER?

Can

You Guess?

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An Oldest Child Teacher

Creates complicated projects for students to complete

They like structure and order in the classroom

They are happiest when students are sitting in nicely arrange desks, in a straight line

Students are quiet and do as they are told

The oldest child teacher becomes frustrated when the lesson plan is interrupted

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A Middle Child Teacher:

Is interested in the psychological well being, as well as the academic achievement, of the student

They

seek out the rebellious students in hope of influencing them in a more positive direction

They try to achieve order through mutual respect and understanding

They are sometimes strict, but sometimes easy going about classroom rules

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A Youngest Child

Teacher:

More creative, fun loving and adjust well to noise and disorder.

Activities are fun and spontaneous

Student choose their own seats and have a lot of choice in classroom decision making

Teachers allow students to take more responsibility so they won’t have to do everything themselves

Sometimes activities go awry because of poor classroom management skills