Unit 2 Chapter 3 Biblical History of Marriage Each stone jars can approximately contain 20 gallons of water So its about 120 gallons of water 450 liters How much wine Jesus lived and preached in a world that saw marriage primarily as an economic contract ID: 661349
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Called to Holiness Through Marriage
Unit 2 Chapter 3Slide2
Biblical History of MarriageSlide3
Each stone jars, can approximately contain 20 gallons of water. So, its about 120 gallons of water (~450 liters).
How much wine?Slide4
Jesus lived and preached in a world that saw marriage primarily as an economic contract
.Early
Christian communities promoted celibacy and often scorned
marriage
marrying
and
a household distracted people from preparing for the kingdom of God His disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” (Matthew 19:10)Slide5Slide6
History of Marriage in Practice
Ancient Greece
:
Love
is a many-
splendored
thing. Love is honored
—between men.
In marriage, inheritance is more important than feelings
:
A woman whose father dies without male heirs can be forced to marry her nearest male relative—even if she has to divorce her husband first.
Rome:
Wife
-swapping as a
career move
—Statesman Marcus
Porcius
Cato divorces his wife and marries her off to his ally
Hortensius
in order to strengthen family bonds; after
Hortensius
dies, Cato remarries her.Slide7
12th-century Europe:
Marriage
is good for loving...someone else—Upper-class marriages are often arranged before the couple has met. Aristocrats believe love is incompatible with marriage and can flourish only in adultery
.
Catholic Church referred to it as a Sacrament
16th-century Europe
:
Love's
a bore—Any man in love with his wife must be so dull that no one else could love him, writes the French essayist Montaigne
.
Council
of Trent in 1563 that marriage was officially deemed one of the seven
sacrameSlide8
1690s U.S.:
Virginia
wasn't always for lovers—Passionate love between husband and wife is considered unseemly: One Virginia colonist describes a woman he knows as "more fond of her husband perhaps than the politeness of the day allows."
Protestant
ministers warn spouses against loving each other too much, or using endearing nicknames that will undermine husbandly authority.Slide9
18th-century Europe
:
Love gains ground
—Married
love is gaining credibility. Ladies' debating societies declare that while loveless marriages are regrettable, women must consider money when choosing a partner.
1840, England:
Virgin
lace—Queen Victoria starts a trend by wearing virginal white, instead of the traditional jeweled wedding
gown.
W
omen
are now considered chaste and pure. Slide10
Mid 19th-century U.S.
:
Honeymoon
suite for three—Honeymoons replace the older custom of "bridal tours," in which the newly married couple travel after the wedding to visit family who could not attend the ceremony. Even so, many brides bring girlfriends with them on their honeymoons.Slide11
20th Century-
Today
w
e
worship the couple. Intimacy shrinks to encompass just two, and love becomes the only reason for marriage
.
1920s U.S.
:
How Saturday night began—
Dating
is
the new craze—in restaurants and cars, away from the oversight of family. Popular culture embraces sex, but critics fear that marriage is on the rocks.
1950s U.S.:
Marriage
is mandatory—Marriage becomes almost universal, and the nuclear family is triumphant: Four out of five people surveyed in 1957 believe that preferring to remain single is "sick," "neurotic" or "immoral."Slide12
1970s U.S.
:
All you need is love?—Self-sufficient women and changing social rules mean marriage is no longer obligatory. Quarreling couples split up rather than make do, and the divorce rate skyrockets.
Today: Bride pride
—
Marriage
is the ultimate expression of love, leading
all to
seek the right to marry, but also encouraging couples to cohabit until they're sure about their "soul mate." Marriage rates fall—but the fantasy of the perfect wedding is ubiquitousSlide13
Marriage Defined
permanent and faithful love bond made freely. It is a deliberate choice and promise by two people for each other over any and all others.
Church does not recognize marriages into which couples are somehow pressured or coerced against their will.
Catholic Tradition ‑ has always taken the permanence of marriage seriously. M
arriages that end can cause
emotional, financial, spiritual, and interpersonal
pain.Slide14
The Sacrament of Marriage
“The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament.” CCC §1601 (other catechism reference 1602 - 1615)
A sacrament is a visible sign given to us by Jesus to bring God's love into our lives in a special way.
Marriage is a sacrament, which the couple gives to each other not only on their wedding day, but also in every loving thing they say or do for each other for the rest of their
livesSlide15
The Sacrament of Marriage
continued
Whatever a couple shares together in their marriage is sacramental and holy as long as it is done with love.
When two Christians freely give their love to each other forever.
Vatican II – “an intimate community of conjugal life and love. Marriage is a community of life and love, founded in mutual and irrevocable covenant”
St. Paul saw marriage as a reflection of the relationship between Jesus and his Church. (e.g. Ephesians 5:25-33)Slide16
The Sacrament of Marriage continued
Christian marriage is a two-tiered sacrament. On one level it is a celebration of the ultimate communion of life and love between a man and a woman. The second level “proclaims, makes explicit and celebrates the intimate life, love and Grace between God and God’s people, and between Christ and Christ people, the Church”. (Karl
Rahner
, S.J.) Slide17
The Christian sacrament of marriage is experienced on at least five levels:
sexual
creative
the loving
the ecclesial
the spiritualSlide18
The term “marriage in the Lord” refers to marriage as a symbol of Christ’s unfailing love of his spouse, the Church (p. 80)
St Augustine: Three Goods of Marriage
Children, fidelity, and permanent exclusive relationships
Read Maggie Gallagher
The Case for Marriage
Top 10 List on page 77Slide19
Called to Holiness Through Marriage
Unit 2 Chapter 3Slide20
Infatuation vs. Love
Discuss the similarities and difference for each term
Write a definition for each term.
What does an ideal relationship look like?
Relationship can be romantic, friendship, or familialSlide21
Infatuation- “a foolish or extravagant attraction” (82)
Short in duration, fleeting“To fall in love you have to take the risk of changing yourself…let go of who you thought you were before you loved that person…you’re giving them [the person you love] power to change you” (Rohr)
In English language one word for love.
Used interchangeably with things we enjoySlide22
Love
What is love?Six different words for love
Eros
Phila
Ludus
Agape
PragmaPhilautiaSlide23
Ludus
- This was the Greek’s idea of playful love, which referred to the playful affection between children or young couples
Ex: Flirting
Pragma- Mature love;
This was the deep understanding that developed between long-married couples
.
Philautia- self-love. There are two types:Narcissism (unhealthy)capacity to love
“All friendly feelings for others are an extension of man’s feelings for himself.
” –AristotleSlide24
Eros
Named after the Greek god of fertility
Defined
love
constituting a passionate, intense desire for something; it is often referred to as a sexual desire, hence the modern notion of "
erotic“
That love between man and woman which is neither planned nor willed, but somehow imposes itself upon human beings, was called eros by the ancient Greeks
Viewed as dangerous; all consuming Slide25
Philia
philia
entails a fondness and appreciation of the other.
In Greek also related to: loyalties
to family and
polis
-one's political community, job, or discipline.
Philia
concerned the deep comradely friendship that developed between brothers in arms who had fought side by side on the battlefield
.
A variation on the love parents and children have for each other
“a connection that can last a lifetime, but that is not romantic” (85). Slide26
Agape
Perhaps the most radical, was agape or selfless love. This was a love that you extended to all people, whether family members or distant
strangers
draws on elements from both
eros
and
philia in that it seeks a perfect kind of loveC.S. Lewis calls these“Gift-love
”Slide27
Called to Holiness Through Marriage
Unit 2 Chapter 3Slide28
Sexuality
More than just sexIt is how we live as human beings, part of our identity
Two purposes of sex within marriage
Unitive
- communicative and unites
Male and female are designed to complete each other
Unites the couple in every dimensionProcreative-allows possibility of having childrenIn every other process as humans we are separate, this is the one act we join to be a single unitSlide29
Chastity
“All baptized are called to live a chaste life” (90).Chastity-the virtue by which a person integrates his or her sexuality into his or her whole self, body, and spirit. (20).
Abstinence is a part of it; More self-control
Married couples practice conjugal chastity-remaining faithful to your partner and open to life.
Chastity requires day to day focus if one is to achieve it.
Chastity is practiced through modesty (91).Slide30
Books
avoidance list to stay chaste (Pretty Intense)Lust, Masturbation, Fornication, Pornography, Prostitution, and Rape (91
)
Today what is the most underreported offense in the United States?
Justice Department found that 80% of campus rapes went unreported to the authorities Slide31
Sexual Assault on College Campuses
The Power of the Peer Group in Preventing Campus Rape—NPR Slide32
Sexual Assault
Sexual assault is widely considered to be the most underreported violent crime in America
http://ope.ed.gov/security/GetOneInstitutionData.aspx
The crime statistics found on this website represent alleged criminal offenses reported to campus security authorities and/or local law enforcement agencies
7.7% of male students volunteered anonymously they had engaged in or attempted forced sex. Almost none considered it a crime. (Koss, 1987
)
Why do most studies consist of college age students?Slide33
Assault
Sexual Assault- “any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the
recipient” (Department of Justice)
1
in 5 women are targets of attempted or completed sexual
assaultLess than 5 percent of rapes and attempted rapes of college students are reported to campus authorities or law enforcement
.Slide34
Class Debate
The practice of chastity
is the
most effective
way to resolve the sexual assaults
issue on
college campuses.Rest of period research your argumentBy end of class must have designate positions for members of your team.
Friday Quiz and continued research. Must hand me your Three Arguments by the end of Friday’s Class
.
Debate worth a 100pt quiz grade.Slide35
COMPARING MARRIAGE Using
CIVIL AND CANON LAW
CIVIL LAW
law
of the land applying to each individual
MARRIAGE a
legal agreement (contract) between a man and a woman
MARRIAGE
LICENSE issued
by City
Hall
necessary
to be
married
CITY
HALL Judge
or Justice of the
Peace
requires
two witnesses
JUDGE
OR JUSTICE OF THE
PEACE performs
the ceremony and signs contract to make marriage legal
CANON LAW
laws of the Church- canon means “rule”
MARRIAGE
a sacrament bonding
of two
people
MARRIAGE
LICENSE
civil
and Church
license issued
by
priest
CHURCH
WEDDING
blessing of the
Church, performed
in front of family and friends
usually
have Eucharistic
Celebration
PRIEST
performs
ceremony and signs canon law contract & makes marriage legalSlide36
COMPARING MARRIAGE Using CIVIL AND CANON LAW
CIVIL LAW
THE
SERVICE
exchange
of vows
LEGAL
AGREEMENT
marriage
is a legal agreement
CONTRACT
marriage requires responsibilities
to be
met
DIVORCE
legal
separation of two married
people division
of property
CANON
LAW
THE
MASS Eucharistic
Celebration
and exchange
of
vows
COVENANT sacred
promise of made between the couple and
God
SACRAMENT marriage
is a
sacrament
ANNULMENT not divorce necessary
to be married in the Church again