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1 Admonishing Others “He who rebukes a man will in the end gain more favor than he who has a �attering tongue.” (Prov. 28:23) 1. Admonishing others—a warning based on instruction from scripture—is commanded by God. (2 Tim. 4:2) a. No one is exempt from admonishment. (1 Thess. 2:11, 12; Col. 3:16; Prov 24:24, 25; Col 1:28; Gal 6:1; Luke 17:3; 1 Thess. 5:14) b. Why do you admonish? i. God commands you to do so as a demonstration of your love toward another versus protecting yourself and sharing in their guilt. (Lev. 19:17; Heb. 12:5; Prov. 27:5) “Do not hate your brother in your heart. Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in his guilt.” (Lev. 19:17) ii. So the transgressor may be restored and brought to maturity in Christ, allowing them to more fully glorify God with their lives. (Col 1:28; Gal 6:1; 2 Tim 2:24-26; John 8:31, 23b) c. When do you admonish? i. When the transgressor is caught in a trespass. (Gal 6:1) ii. When God opens your eyes to see another’s sin. (Matt 7:1-5) d. How do you admonish? i. Forgive the transgressor before you admonish them. (Mark 11:25; Heb 12:15) ii. Ask the Lord to take the “log” out of your own eye, even if the person you intend to admonish initiated the problem. (Matt 7:1-5) Notes Called to Obedience Ministries—Admonishing Others Admonishing Others iii. Speak the truth in love; be compassionate, kind and forgiving. (Eph 4:15; Col 3:12-14) “Therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” (Col 3:12-14) iv. Speak with patience and careful instruction. (2 Tim 4:2) v. Correct with gentleness, with the hope God will grand the (2 Tim. 2:25; Gal 6:1) vi. Approach in private �rst. (Matt 18:15-18) vii. Use the scriptures, as much as possible, to do the admonishing and instructing for you. (John 10:27; Is. 5:11; 2 Tim 3:16-17) viii. Admonish in as few words as possible, believing by faith in his response even if you disagree. (Prov. 10:19; 1 Cor. 4:5; Prov 17:14; John 16:8; Matt 7:12; 1 Cor 13:7) ix. Do not try to convince or change the transgressor because the Holy Spirit is the only means of convincing, convicting and bringing someone to repentance. (John 16:8; 1 Cor. 3:6-7) x. Do not argue with a transgressor who defends himself. (Prov 14:14; Prov 15:1; 2 Tim 2:24; Ex. 14:14) xi. Handle rejection, if it occurs, in a godly way. 1. Forgive the one who rejects you. 2. Examine yourself. 3. that Christ is able to satisfy and ful�ll you, if the o�ender separates from you. 4. stand. Admonishing Others “And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.” (2 Tim 2:24-26 ESV) 2. God says admonishment is to be balanced with overlooking a transgression. “A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook on o�ence.” (Prov. 19:11) 3. God expects you to admonish when necessary, which may cause hurt in others’ lives, as well as your own. (Prov. 27:6; Phil. 4:7; Matt 10:34-38) 4. God tells you there will be great blessing in seeing a transgressor restored because he listened to your admonishment. (Jas. 5:19-20: Prov 25:12; Prov. 28:23; Prov. 24:24-25; Prov. 9:8) 5. God asks that you respond righteously to admonishment you receive. God links heeding admonishment to becoming wise. (Prov. 25:12; Prov. 10:17; Prov. 12:15; Prov. 15:31; Prov. 15:32; Prov. 19:20; Prov. 16:20) Called to Obedience Ministries—Admonishing Others Notes