have to ask I asked him how far he wanted to go and together we agreed not to go any further S he was so excited that I talked about having sex before we did anything ID: 232142
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I could tell she wanted it. The body language was there. I didn’t have to ask!”
“I asked him how far he wanted to go, and together we agreed not to go any further!”
“She was so excited that I talked about having sex before we did anything.”
“He was hesitant at first, but I pushed him into it and it was great!”
Body language is a poor indicator of feelings and is not a substitute for verbal consent.
Pressuring, intimidating, or manipulating someone into sexual activities i
s not consent!
T
alking to your partner about consent it shows maturity, consideration, and respect!
Talking about sex before you start is respectful
and it can strengthen your relationship!
Is it consent?Slide3
“I kissed her and touched her, and she didn’t say no or stop me,
so she definitely wanted sex.”
“She said she didn’t think it was a good idea to have sex, but I know she really wants it.”
“After I unbuttoned her shirt, she re-buttoned it. She was such a tease. That just means she wanted me to try harder.”
“When I kissed him, he got up and turned off the light. I thought he was
down for sex.
”
No response does not mean “yes.” It means “no.” Only a clear “
yes
” means “yes.”
Consent Confusions
Wrong.
Only a clear “
yes”
means “yes.”
Even if he consented to something, he did not necessarily consent to sex.
Wrong. Only a clear “yes”
means “yes.”Slide4
The Movie Myth
“When I have sex I think it should be hot, romantic, and passionate. Like something I’d see in a movie.
I feel that asking for consent would kill the mood for both of us. Why should I ask?”
Permission requires a responseNothing is sexier than knowing that
you are both comfortable with your decisionsThe media often portrays sexism, and glorifies power,
manipulation, and sexual assault.
Unless you are in a movie –
Get the
Yes
before you undress!
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Common obstacles to asking for consent
“She’ll think I am a WIMP”It shows you care. People like that.
“That’s the man’s job”Some men
report they are turned on when the woman takes the lead.Slide6
Is this okay?
If you want, we could…
I’d really like to…do you want to?What do you think of us trying…
Do you want to go further? Is that alright? If you change your mind, we can stop.Slide7
I’m not ready.
I think we need more time.
Let’s take it slow tonight.I like you, but I want to stop now.
I have a “not on the first date” rule.NoI’ve decided to wait.
Let me think about it.
I’ve
changed my mind. I don’t want to.