of relationships This week We will go over the breakdown of relationships You will then have an opportunity for verbal feedback Activity With a partner discuss relationships that you ended Q Were there common reasons or was each one different ID: 177998
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Breakdown of relationshipsSlide2
This week
We will go over the breakdown of relationships
You will then have an opportunity for verbal feedback Slide3
Activity
With a partner, discuss relationships that you ended
Q: Were there common reasons, or was each one different?
Now, discuss relationships that ‘they’ ended
Q: Were there common reasons, or was each one differentSlide4
Reasons for ending a relationshipSlide5
Reasons for ending a relationship
Conflict
Breaking agreed rules [fidelity, confidentiality, support]
Dissatisfaction / boredom
Lack of stimulation / novelty
An attractive alternative relationship
Costs outweighing rewardsSlide6
Reasons continued
Perceived changes in relationship
Interference from other relationships
Problems of abuse [alcohol, monetary, sex]
Changes in self or other person
Falling out of love
Saving faceSlide7
research
Pre
marital
breakdown...
LEE 1984 interviewed
couples
FOUND: 5 stages of premarital breakdown-
1.
dissatisfaction
–
realising you're unhappy
2.
exposure –
difficulties coming to surface / voiced
3.
negotiation –
discussing issues / deciding how to save it
4.
attempted resolution –
trying solutions
5.
termination –
realising it isn't working – ending relationshipSlide8
Evaluation
STRENGTH
Research was
qualitative
&
subjective
WEAKNESS
Qualitative data not scientific – interpretation difficult, bias
Subjective nature of data – difficult to generalise
Retrospective data
Samples – long term cohabiting couples only used [married, friends may be different]
individual differences not accounted for in exposure stage – not everyone discusses dissatisfaction with partner before endingSlide9
Ducks model
Similar to Lee's BUT can be applied to
ALL relationships
4 phases
1.
intrapsychic
– thinking about negative aspects of partner & relationship BUT NOT discussing them (yet!)
Threshold - “I can't stand this anymore”
...Dissatisfaction grows = can't hold in feelingsSlide10
Ducks model
dyadic phase
– confronting partner & trying to resolve
problems
Threshold - “I'd be justified in withdrawing”
...partner knows how you feel, if they don't help resolve issues you feel like giving up
[corresponds with Lee's
exposure,negotiation
& resolution attempt stages]Slide11
social phase –
decide what to do now relationship effectively over
includes face-saving & negotiating social implication, e.g. childcare, friends]
Threshold - “I mean it”
[corresponds with Lee's termination stage]
relationship aired publicly, for some people this process may save relationship...if not...Slide12
grave-dressing phase –
focus on communicating socially acceptable account of end of relationship [important!]
Threshold - “Now it's inevitable”'
Deciding what relationship will be with ex & where blame lies [helps get over it]Slide13
Comparisons of lee and duck
Both models have useful practical applications – can identify stage of breakdown & suggest ways to attempt to repair relationship
Models suggest how, once broken, couples in
intrapsychic
phase should aim to re-establish liking by focusing on positive aspects
Neither model explains why relationships breakdown – merely focuses on likely sequence of eventsSlide14
Other factors (Duck)
Duck found factors make breakup more likely...
Younger than average partners – teen
wedding
Lower
socio-economic group / educational level