Birth to Breakup Brian Balke CHt Cant We All Just Get Along Humour Me for a Minute Phlegmatic Watery Acquisitive Choleric Fiery Dominant Sanguine Airy Supportive Melancholic Earthy Avoidant ID: 765341
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Birth to Breakup Brian Balke, C.Ht.
Can’t We All Just Get Along?
Humour Me for a Minute… Phlegmatic / Watery / AcquisitiveCholeric / Fiery / DominantSanguine / Airy / Supportive Melancholic / Earthy / Avoidant
Give Me a Sign… ZodiacSeasonal gestationAstrology
Do They Have an App for That? Meyers-Briggs Personality ProfileHow we think and interactTrait Pairs Extraversion – Introversion Sensing – Intuition Thinking – Feeling Judging – Perceiving16 possible combinationsNEO PI-R – 5 traits x 6 facets
Behave Yourself
Life Uses Energy Who Am I? (How do I get energy?)AspectsTalents Culture Society Roles Long-Term, Durable NegotiableEinstein was a German, Jewish genius. How Am I? (Where do I apply energy?) Aspects Mental (alert/sleepy) Physical (hungry/sated) Emotions (happy/sad) Sensations (hot/cold) Short-Term, Tendencies Fundamental I am a happy drunk.
Behavior “How I Am” expressed as “Who I Am”
“I think, therefore I am.” But what happens before “I think?” Rene Descartes We know “How I am” before “Who I am.”
Toddler Knowns Euphoria Fear Balance Survival Instinct Parents Thinking Mind Fight/Flight Adventurer Protector
Child Knowns Euphoria Fear Balance Survival Instinct Thinking Mind Critical Mind Conscious (12%) Subconscious (88%) Fight/Flight Adventurer Protector
Adventurers are Made by Protectors Protectors are Made by Adventurers The world is a safe place. “I can do it myself.” The world is a scary place. “I’m bored.” … “Not again!”
Break or Make
Complementary AdventurersActSpeak elaborately Learn literally Outgoing Family Crave attentionWalk off the end of the pierGunney-sackersEmotionally brittleCrushed by rejectionDestructive Protectors Plan Learn by inference Speak directly Reserved Work Conserve options Look twice before crossing Clam Stew Physically reticent Haunted by guilt Vicious Antagonistic
Adventurer Protector “You look gorgeous! Eat your heart out, Miss P!” Etiquette, Schmetiquette “Where did you get that? Do you mind if I tell Miss A?” “Everyone follow Kid A!” “What’s your favorite story? Can I tell you mine?”
For the Protector Your adventurer is far more committed to the relationship than you are. You know them better than they know themselves – don’t abuse that power. Come forward every now and then. If you have to leave: Don’t beat them down. Prepare a safe time of transition.Eventually you’ll decide to just be alone.
For the Adventurer Your protector loves you more than you love them. They can commit their loyalties to more than one cause. Give them some space – and use it as an opportunity to demonstrate that others appreciate you. Use them to build habits for self-care. If you have to leave: Remember to take your heart back.Leave them some options.Get help with moving on.
Making the Best of It Buy the Symptoms You are both “normal” Work to the middle Declare and manage terms A Little Stress Never Killed Anybody Variety is the Spice of Life