The discomfort you are feeling is GRIEF GRIEF is the conflicting feelings caused by a change or an end in a familiar pattern of behavior Another definition of GRIEF GRIEF is love not ever ready to say goodbye ID: 933787
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COLLECTIVE GRIEF
Exploring our losses
Slide2The discomfort you are feeling is
GRIEF
GRIEF is the conflicting feelings caused by a change or an end in a familiar pattern of behavior.
Slide3Another definition of
GRIEF:
GRIEF is love not ever ready to say goodbye
Earl
Grollman
Slide4We are experiencing
BOTH
individual and collective grief
We are grieving on a micro
ANDmacro level
Slide5LOTS of CHANGES
Whenever there is a change there is also a loss
Slide6We are experiencing societal
instability
There are
DIRECT
losses that are named and known. There are also INDIRECT losses that demand our attention
What needs to be named and surfaced
?
Slide7It is crucial, that in the current
moment, we:
1.
Identify and validate the losses we and others are experiencing in real time;
2. Recognize the grief responses we and loved ones are feeling; and
3.
Demonstrate care for ourselves and others
Slide8Right NOW, take a moment
to think about your own losses –
BIG and small
You may want to write them down or have a conversation about your losses
Slide9Types of Grief
Anticipatory
– worried about the future and the WORST that could happen
Disenfranchised
– when the loss or the griever are not acknowledged
Ambiguous
– when someone is not present but psychologically present
Slide10Children and Grief
Children are often overlooked
Children are NOT mini adults who grieve
Children grieve in spirts and throughout developmental stages
Slide11GRIEF is an extremely emotional experience
It does a number on your brain.
Grief is messy
Grief is front and center in your brain and your heart
Slide12TRAUMA
Trauma is unexpected
Trauma is unpredictable
Trauma is deeply distressing or disturbing
Slide13More about trauma
Traumatic events can include divorce, illness, accidents, a pandemic, grief and more extreme events
Slide14Addressing our trauma and grief
Name it to claim it
Feel it to heal it
Slide15People are afraid that feelings
will “gang up” on them
Let the feelings happen. Then you can move through them.
EMOTION needs motion! (David Kessler)
Slide16Grief Opportunities
Companioning
Reconciliation
Finding Meaning
Gratitude
Slide17It is absurd to think we shouldn’t
be feeling grief right now!
Let yourself feel it and keep going.
Help others identify their grief.
Then come to the present. Right now it’s okay. You have food. You’re not sick.
Slide18SELF CARE
CARE is both a noun and a verb;
it is not simply a feeling but also something we do.
HOW are YOU taking care of YOURSELF?
Slide19Keep a journal, Watch a funny movie,
Say “no,” Watch the sunrise or sunset, Write a
letter, Take a nap, Bake or cook something special, Soak in the tub, Sing, Have a good cry, Dance, go to bed early, Doodle, Daydream, Tell someone you love them, Do nothing, Go for a walk or a drive, Chalk up your driveway, Swing, Work on a puzzle, Garden, Take a virtual tour, Bicycle, Make a list of good things, Order food in, have a picnic, Snuggle, Gaze out the window, listen to the rain, Pray, Play a board game or cards, Blow bubbles, Call someone, Buy yourself flowers, Have breakfast in bed, Read
Slide20“Ultimately, if we are able to
recognize and share our emotional responses with one another, without fear of judgment, ranking, or disenfranchisement, we can combat
the emotional effects of isolation and instead, become a supportive and resilient community of grievers.”
Sarah Murphy
Slide21Some resources
www.tidesprogram.org
www.griefconnection
.org
www.janamariefoundation.org
www.kochfuneralhome.com