Talking with your Kids about Sexuality Family Voices for CA November 1 2017 Why do People with Disabilities need and want to learn about sexuality Self advocates say So we can learn to have healthy relationships ID: 761595
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Talking with your Kids about Sexuality Family Voices for CANovember 1, 2017
Why do People with Disabilities need and want to learn about sexuality? Self advocates say…. "So we can learn to have healthy relationships “So we aren’t lonely!”"So we are able to make informed choices!"So we can pick the right person!"For help with the toughest part of the relationship, making it last!"So we can be safe!"Because we all have desires/needs and that’s okay!
Self advocates say….. "To get correct information! "To get resources and tools to make healthy sexual choices! "So that people know their rights! "So people with disabilities don’t put themselves in bad situations!"So we will know how to protect ourselves!”“So we can feel good about ourselves and our bodies!”“So we can be sexual self advocates, not just self advocates!”
Sexual Self Advocacy "Speaking up for yourself, sexually "Getting information "Taking a stand "Saying to whomever - this is my choice "Stating your sexual limits with your partner, respecting others limits "Starting to do what you want with relationships
Learning Objectives As a result of this workshop, participants will be able to : Gain knowledge about sexuality and developmental disabilities.Acquire and practice skills in communicating about sexuality with our young and grown children.
What is Sexuality? Sexuality means more than intercourse or sex. It's about intimacy, connection, and belonging. It's about relationships. Friendships and sexual. It's about how we feel about being the gender we are. It's about how we feel about others and ourselves. It's about sexual expression and behavior.It's the total of who we are, what we believe, what we feel, and how we respond.
Messages What was the primary message that you received growing up about sexuality?
Messages People with Developmental Disabilities: Are not sexual beings Should not have sex Are innocent and childlike and need protection from sexuality Are not responsible Can not solve problems Are unable to make good decisions about sexuality Always make mistakes Would not make good parents so should not have childrenAre different than their non-disabled siblings
Human Sexual Development Development of Biological Sex Gender Assignment Development of Gender Identity & Societal Gender Role Development of Values and Attitudes About Sexuality
Human Sexual Development Physical and Emotional Changes of Puberty Development of Sexual Orientation Affectional Attraction Romantic Attraction Erotic AttractionDevelopment of Sexual BehaviorDevelopment of Sexual Identity
Human Sexual Development Development of Sexual Knowledge Development of Sexual Skills
Interests, Concerns, and Behaviors: Young Children Body parts and functions Genital touching Sex play Reproduction: “Where did I come from?”Roles as male/femaleBody imageNeed for privacy increases
Interests, Concerns, and Behaviors: Adolescents Physical changes of puberty Hygiene: pimples and body odor Friendships Reproduction, Pregnancy, Birth, Pregnancy OptionsSexual ExpressionContraception and Sexually Transmitted InfectionsSexual feelingsMasturbation
Interests, Concerns, and Behaviors: Adolescents Sexual Orientation Gender Identity Body Image Establishing and maintaining intimate relationships:Ways of expressing affectionHow to communicate with their partnerDeciding about having sexGiving and receiving pleasureBreaking Up
Interests, Concerns, and Behaviors: Adults Pregnancy, Birth Parenting Contraception, Sexually Transmitted Infections MasturbationSexual Orientation/Gender Identity
Interests, Concerns, and Behaviors: Adults Establishing and maintaining intimate relationships Separation/Divorce Body Image MenopauseChanges in sexual functioning
Small Group Discussion H ow is a person with a developmental disability’s experience of developing the same as someone without a disability? How is a person with a developmental disability’s experience of developing the different than someone without a disability?
SAME Assigned gender Gender roles reinforced Biological changes Need same information, based on biological ageHave sexual feelings and needsHave dreams like anyone else might, relationship, babies
DIFFERENT People don’t discuss topic Think there are oversexed Higher rate of abuse Behaviors are accepted or forgivenLack friendships, social opportunitiesDon’t pick up on the social cuesHow you teach topics is differentOften lack privacy to explore their sexualityMany parents let go of dreams for child related to sexuality or think of them as not sexual
Tips for Discussing Sexuality Give Positive Messages Don’t have to know all the answers OK to feel embarrassedOK to answer laterTell your kids your valuesBe concrete, graphicUse repetitionUse the media, soap opera support group
Instead of Reacting …… . Respond
Factual: Teachable Moments 1. Reassure the person that it is good to ask questions. 2. Find out what the person thinks/is really asking. 3. Decide what message you want to give. 4. Answer the question simply, using correct vocabulary.5. Encourage the person to give feedback.
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Talking with Your Kids about Sexuality: On line Course for Parents If you want to take your learning the next step, we’re offering a special discount for the on line course for people who took this webinar. The discount is only good until 11/8/17.Either the parent or agency version is 25% off. Go to:http://disabilityworkshops.com/workshops-and-products/talking-with-your-kids/ Enter the coupon code: FV17 for the parent version FV17A for the agency version Parent Version: marked down from $47 to $35.25 Agency Version : marked down from $97 to $75.25
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