Powering Your Babe Vibes:METHODS SELF CAREBY JODIE LAYNE & KARA HAUPT - PDF document

Powering Your Babe Vibes:METHODS SELF CAREBY JODIE LAYNE & KARA HAUPT Babe Vibes, at its core, is self care. Self care is an action, as is calling yourself a babe and speaking to yourself with affection and love. You are a powerful, mighty babe who deserves radical care and love. Take care (of yourself). A BABE VIBES PUBLICATION Babe Vibes 2014babevibes.com#babevibes#methodsofselfcare TAKE CARE (OF YOURSELF) wasn’t worthy of God’s love me anyway. This is a very oneself. There wasn’t any rhetoric can only go so far, that it wasn’t my “silly, of misogyny. I heard once you feel, but if you don’t feel it that’s okay too. I also way of thinking, that it didn’t BY KARA your logic doesn’t match your and lazy. I’ve often been very been a go-getter, a creator of unfortunately, nd my self-worth there and when I don’t will) speak negatively, words together. You had all that time, why didn’t you do it. You are pathetic. You are wasting your talent. You are a fraud. You can do this, that I didn’t want to work on What’s funny too is that this work habits” for my anxiety, certainly, but my “laziness” anxiety. glasses of ice water, crying, going to bed early, etc. Self care is the things I do and it’s the things I don’t do. I don’t I don’t keep people in my life that exhaust me, I don’t stay feelings don’t coincide with yourself. You deserve to treat Take care (of yourself), babe.“Self care is the things I do and things I don’t do.” girlfriend/spouse? Would you that it’s okay if other people it’s okay to be run down and You’d probably bring them best listening ears. You’d without judgement. You’d them. You’d send them a text another, but not for ourselves? Why can’t you be your own know how. You don’t have to day. Every day I’m alive I can Self-care isn’t just massages orgasms. It’s work: knock ‘em NOTHING MATTERS BUT YOU, BABEBY JODIE crucial to self care. It’s tearing them away with your tears. It’s checking in every day. It’s saying yourself. It’s saying no to the and unworthy. It’s saying yes to Community, your band of own self care. You’ll need to can. We often can’t discern our in the sticky, gooey, good mess of our own lives. We need that However, knowing when you can’t bleed for someone and community, but it’s not giving ...TO MAKE THOSE BABE VIBES LASTPUT YOURSELF FIRST... Women are socialized to from an early age. We’re instead of ofce. We’re meant sets. We’re expected to put way that they love is warrior-should be catty, in competition the men to unlearn the societal standards of harsh masculinity. If you re everyone else’s oven there aren’t going to be any ames for your own. Tempering the nurturing urges we feel compelled to, inwardly or as a symptom of gender binary, and Taking seles isn’t vanity, it’s self-celebration. Talking about how rad you are isn’t bragging, it’s truth-telling. Being proud of Stock up on produce and wake up 15 minutes earlier. Does don’t break it. Does an orgasm every night help to soothe your “Caring for myself resists everything I’ve been taught about not being worthy enough.” PLAYLIST JODIEis real and strong and beautiful and, conversely, that I can’t start a re worrying about my little world falling throwing up the middle nger to the patriarchy.Half About Being A WomanYoncéKARAthat’s why each of these songs so much to me. Walking Off Strong body than right with it. That I was a chubby kid didn’t 10-year-old shoulders: it’s the messaging that the tiny girls with other people’s perceptions of beauty and health more complicated, but there isn’t a babe out there who hasn’t I don’t remember when I started calling myself fat, but I do time in what felt like forever. It felt like a descriptor that sense of what I looked like but didn’t dene me or even CAKE BY THE POUNDBY JODIEsquishy chin as matter-of-fact — no judgement. When we stop letting ideals and the words that govern ourselves. We take away the ability for others’ judgements about our bodies to shape our own. We let ourselves that existing. Right now. Lesley Kinzel says we don’t have to start loving our bodies, SELF(IE) CAREBY KARAmuch or in the wrong way, that we are self centered, silly, and narcissistic. All DIANALINDSEYRACHELKELSIEAIMÉEKATIEEMMAEUN + JANETBETHMOOREAERIKAELSIEDANIJESSJODIE DUNJAVIRGIE Qualitative researcher, part-time hairstylist, MUA & photographer.breaks for yourself. With that said, I strongly identify with Audre Lorde’s conception that: “Caring for myself is not self-la 10 Things I Hate About You) if you will. In those days, ‘intersectionality’ wasn’t really a thing, so I went pretty hard for diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorder. It’s taken have access to those resources (family, friends, healthcare, etc.) which have allowed me to become more self-aware. It’s colonized society affects you as a Plains Cree and hate war, and I hate having to struggle. I honestly do because SELF CARE IN A WHITE SUPREMACIST SOCIETY “Not Indulgence, Preservation.” I wish I had been born into a world where it was unnecessary. I would be a sculptor, or a gardener, carpenter - You know, reluctant warrior, a reluctant struggler. But I do it, because I’m With that said colonization has affected the way that I live my life in every single way. Once you’ve opened your eyes to injustice, you can’t just close your eyes to it if you have a today. I’ve been given not only the gift of that awareness, but mine and other marginalized communities. To waste any of that - even when it sometimes feels that way. Self care also reminds living and participating in a colonialist society isn’t a choice and I am doing the best that I can. And probably most importantly, to her own decolonization journey, I do take time to pray and smudge when I’m feeling especially shitty. Colonization has and spirituality in the past and it’s something I consciously Additionally, I also try to surround myself with like-minded searching for the same freedom’ I can’t nd it but I denitely Taking breaks from social media, reading the news, or just their friends and information. Luckily, I’m the only person ever built a ‘community’ with has cut so much unnecessary anxiety, was seeing at the time had started therapy, and requested that I do too. But, more importantly, I stayed in therapy long after inability to live up to my potential, but I couldn’t gure out why. and I wasn’t fully engaged with my life. My therapist has helped very nature of self care. Working with a therapist allows us provide. You will be doing work, but the therapist holds space afterwards. You will experience major shifts in the way you after, but that’s when you know you’re growing. Give yourself time. We build our unhealthy patterns over many many years. Try to remember that processing those BY STEPHANIE McCOLLOUGH ASK FOR HELP! organization’s job is to priority.the country, and most of HOW TO GET HELP “Treat your first appointment with any mental health clinician as an interview. They will absolutely be interviewing you, and taking inventory of your background in order to ensure the best possible treatment. The thing that clients don’t understand is that they also get to interview the clinician. Ask them what their philosophy or specialty is, what kind of clients they typically work with, etc. See if their answers resonate with what you’re looking for. If they don’t, don’t feel like you have to see them.” – Chelsea Francis, MSEd absorbed. To me, being selsh has become a method of self-and that will make you the most happy. I nd myself in all take care of your-fucking-self…take care of your-fucking-self…take care of your-fucking-self.necessary. Sometimes that has to be mean. And that is fucking OKAY.BY DANIKA McCLURETAKE CARE OF YOUR-FUCKING-SELF Telling that dude at the bar to get the fuck away from you selsh? Probably. Was it necessary for you to be mean or selsh the answer is “yes,” do it. DO IT. To quote one of my favorite, happy.”And I believe it’s important to discuss this in particular, self-care are necessary even when the other person hasn’t exhibited abhorrent or problematic behavior. I had started seeing someone, who, on paper, was an exemplary human up one day and just didn’t want to be in it anymore. There was no big ght, they hadn’t done anything shitty, I just woke up uninterested, and knew this wasn’t what I wanted to be to be his girlfriend again because my reasons weren’t good more recent situation, thankfully, didn’t make me call and ask traumatic split for my partner, and it began to manifest itself things I have done in my life. But it was necessary. And it was sometimes taking care of your-fucking-self will hurt others. And that is okay. “Be mean. Be selfish. Be self absorbed.” Take a shower.Drink a glass of ice water.Cry.Write about what’s on your mind. Make a healthy, lling meal.Take a night or day off.Write positive, afrming notes for Take seles until you believe you’re Water your plants or someone else’s.Tell someone who should fuck off, to fuck Play hooky, you’re allowed to!“Good Vibes” and carry it around in your Visit an animal shelter and hold animals.Do YouTube yoga exercises. Take a power nap.Take a bubble bath. Have a great method of self care? Post . _______________. I don’t need to be good at I don’t feel cute today, but my cuteness isn’t who I am. My babeliness is about cute tomorrow. Feeling all the feels is a gift. It’s okay to be tender-hearted. What do I need to What’s most important? I am resilient.I shouldn’t be bothered I am bothered by this for a reason. It’s TALK THE TALK When engaging in self-talk, ask: would I say this to someone else? What would my intentions be? How would I want them to feel? Constructive criticism and truth-telling are a gift, but they’re not the same as trashing someone. THE END.P.S. You are worth it. Hey, thanks for reading Methods of Self Care! Feel free to print, email, and distribute it to every single babe in the world. Please don’t sell it at a profit or republish the content. Credit where credit is due. XOXO!A BABE VIBES PUBLICATION Babe Vibes 2014babevibes.com#babevibes#methodsofselfcare