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Chapter TWO:Accepting Personal Responsibility
Quiz 1, Language of Responsibility, ABCSlide2
Homework
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Note: No late assignments will
be accepted.Slide3
Quiz Time
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Ice Breaker
Name Game:
Create big circle
Person one start with name and animal
Person two repeats person one and him/herself
Person three repeats
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Accepting Personal Responsibility
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Adopting the Creator Role
“The essence of personal responsibility is responding wisely to life’s opportunities and challenges, rather than waiting passively for luck or other people to make the choices for us.”
When people keep doing what they’ve been doing even when it doesn’t work, they are acting as
VICTIMS
When people change their beliefs and behaviors to create the best results they can, they are acting as
CREATORS
The key ingredient of personal responsibility is
CHOICE
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Responsibility Model
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Self-Talk (internal voice)
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Self-Talk (internal voice) - continue
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Self-Talk (internal voice) - continue
The
Inner CriticBlames us for whatever goes wrong in our life“Everything is
my
fault.”
The
Inner Defender
Deflects all criticism and places it on others
“Everything is
their
fault.”
The
Inner Guide
Seeks to make the best of any situation (wisdom)
“Am
I
on course or off course?” If I’m off course, what can
I
do to get back on course?”
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Changing Victim Language
If I weren’t so stupid, I wouldn’t have to take this dumb class again.
I know I didn’t spend nearly enough time studying last semester. I’m going to study this subject from 3:30-4:30 every day. I’ll also go to tutoring center for 2 hours on Tuesdays and Thursdays.
I would make the team if the coach was fair.
I’m going to increase my strength, speed and skills so I can earn a position on the team.
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Applying the Concept: Victim Vs. Creator
“I got cheated on this grade!”“I’m going to meet with my professor to find out exactly what I need to change.”
“I know I’ll do lousy this term because my schedule is so messed up.”
“People on my study team are lazy and worthless. I’m quitting.”
I didn’t understand the tutor I saw today. I’ll go back tomorrow and see if I can find a different tutor who explains things in a way that makes more sense to me.”
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Language of Responsibility
Language of Responsibility WorksheetWork in groups10 minutesShare out
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Language of Responsibility WorksheetSlide14
The Wise Choice Process
What’s my present situation?How would I like my situation to be?
What are my possible choices?
What’s the likely outcome of each possible choice?
Which choice(s) will I commit to doing?
When and how will I evaluate my plan?
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The Wise Choice Process (SAMPLE)
What’s my present situation?
I stayed up all night studying for my first history test. When I finished taking the test, I hoped for an A. At worst, I expected a B. When I got the test back, my grade was a D. Five other students got A’s. I feel depressed and angry.
How would I like my situation to be?
I would like to get A’s on all of my future test
.
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The Wise Choice Process (SAMPLE)
What are my possible choices?
Complain to classmates & anyone who would listen
Drop class & take it next term with another instructor
Complain to the department head about grade
Ask classmate for help
Ask instructor for suggestions about improving grade
Read about study skills & implement new study techniques
Request an opportunity to re-test
Do all practice quizzes online
Get a tutor
What’s the likely outcome of each possible choice?
Immediate pleasure blasting the instructor & get sympathy
Lose 3 units & time because I might have to make it up
Department head might redirect to talk to instructor
Might learn new study skills and make new friends
Learn what to do next time & shows that you care
Learn new strategies & might help improve future score
Might get a re-test & show that you care
Help improve future score
Help improve, but will take time
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The Wise Choice Process (SAMPLE)
Which choice(s) will I commit to doing?
I’ll talk to my successful classmates, make an appointment with my instructor and have him explain what I could do to improve, and I’ll request an opportunity to retake the test. I’ll read the study skills sections of On Course and implement at least 3 new study strategies. If these choices don’t raise my next test score, then I’ll get a tutor
When & how will I evaluate my plan?
After my next history test, I’ll see if I have achieved my goal of getting an A. If not, I’ll revise my plan.
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Change Your Inner Conversation
Albert Ellis – “The answer lies in what each personal believes caused the event… our different responses could be understood by realizing that the activating event (A) plus our beliefs (B) equal the consequences (C) (how we respond).”
A + B = C
KEY: Stop the irrational belief (or what he called
stinkin
’
thinkin
’) and start positive beliefs and behaviors
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Activating Event Beliefs Consequence
Student
#1: Instructor didn’t show up for a scheduled conference/student meeting
My instructor thinks I’m dumb.
I’ll never get a college degree. I’m a failure in life.
Got depressed and watched television all evening.
Student #2: SAME
My instructor won’t help me. Teachers don’t care about students.
Got angry and spent the night telling friends how horrible the instructor is.
Student #3: SAME
I’m not sure what went wrong. Sometimes
things just don’t turn out the way you plan. There’s always tomorrow.
Studied for another class. Planned to call the instructor the next day to see what happened and set up a new appointment.
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Homework
Journal 5 – page 40Journal 6 – page 47Journal 7 – page 53Read Wise Choices in College
Reading – page 57
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Journals for 5
th
edition only:
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Study Guide
Responsibility Model: Victim Vs. CreatorInner Critic, Inner Defender, Inner GuidePersonal Responsibility
The Wise Choice ProcessA+B=C
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