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Communication Boundaries Galatians 62 amp 5 NIV Carry each others burdens Each one should carry their own load Ephesians 415 NLT We will speak the truth in love growing in every way more and more like Christ who is the head of his body the church ID: 655495

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Slide1

BOUNDARIES

for healthy relationshipsSlide2

Communication

BoundariesSlide3

Galatians 6:2 & 5

NIV

Carry

each other’s burdens.

Each one should carry

their own load.Slide4

Ephesians 4:15

NLT

We

will

speak the truth in love

, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.Slide5

It seems obvious that no one would want his/her boundaries violated. So why do we allow it?

Why

do we NOT enforce or uphold our boundaries?Slide6

Why we don’t protect our boundaries

FEAR

of rejection and, ultimately,

abandonment

FEAR

of

confrontation

GUILT

We were not taught healthy boundaries.

AWARENESS is the first step

in establishing and enforcing your boundaries.Slide7

Is it ever appropriate

to choose to endure mistreatment?Slide8

HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

allow you to…

Have

high self-esteem and self-respect

.

Share personal information gradually, in a mutually sharing and trusting relationship

.

Protect physical and emotional space from intrusion

.

Have an equal partnership where responsibility and power are shared

.

Be assertive. Confidently and truthfully say “yes” or “no” and be okay when others say “no” to you

.

Separate your needs, thoughts, feelings, and desires from others. Recognize that your boundaries and needs are different from others

.

Empower yourself to make healthy choices and take responsibility for yourself.Slide9

UNHEALTHY BOUNDARIES

look like…

Either sharing

too much too soon

or closing

yourself off and not expressing your need and wants

.

Feeling responsible for

others’

happiness

.

Failing

to say “no” for fear of rejection or abandonment

.Weak sense of your own identity. You base how you feel about yourself on how others treat you

.

Disempowerment. You allow others to make decisions for

you and so feel

powerless and do not take responsibility for your own life

.

Terri Cole, founder and CEO of Live Fearless and Free, licensed psychotherapist & transformation coachSlide10

Non-Assertive Behavior

Fearful of being yelled out

Very sensitive to disapproval and rejection

Disrespectful to oneself

Allow personal rights to be violated

Fearful of being wrong or stupid

Feel anxious, sad and isolated

Goal: To play it safe and be likedSlide11

Aggressive Behavior

Rude, bossy and controlling of others

Uses verbal and even physical force

Disrespectful to others

Violates rights of others

Needs to be right

Shows immaturity by blunt honesty without regards for other feelings

Goal: To be right and prove itSlide12

Assertive Behavior

Refrains from verbal or physical force

Sensitive and caring to both self and others

Balances personal rights with responsibilities to others

Expresses feelings tactfully

Is more concerned to being kind than right

Feels secure, confident and loving

Goal: To express yourself honestly and kindlySlide13

When you feel anger or resentment or find yourself whining or complaining,

you probably need to set a boundary.

Listen to yourself.

D

etermine what you need to do or say, then communicate assertively.

Learning to set healthy boundaries takes time. Set them

as you are ready

, not when someone else tells you.

Develop a support system of people who respect your right to set boundaries.

Create strong, clear boundaries with

toxic persons

in

your life—those who want to manipulate, abuse,

or

control you. Slide14

When you

set

a boundary, do it clearly, calmly, firmly, respectfully, and in as few words as possible.

Do

not

justify (try to convince the other person the boundary is right),

get angry, or apologize for the boundary you are setting.Slide15

You are not responsible for the other person’s reaction to the boundary you are setting. You are only responsible for communicating your boundary

respectfully.

If they choose to get upset,

know

that

is their problem. Slide16

Some people, especially those accustomed to controlling, abusing, or manipulating you, might test you. Plan on

it.

E

xpect it.

B

ut stay

firm.

Remember

, your

words and actions must

match the boundaries you are setting.

You

cannot successfully establish a clear boundary if you send mixed messages by apologizing.Slide17

At

first, you

may feel

selfish, guilty, or embarrassed when you set a boundary. Do it

anyway. Remind

yourself you have a

right and responsibility

to self-care.

Setting

boundaries takes practice and determination. Don’t let anxiety or low self-esteem

keep

you from taking care of yourself.Slide18

St

Francis Prayer of Peace

O Divine Master,

grant

that I may not so much seek

to be consoled as to console;

to be understood as to understand

;

to be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive;

it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;

and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.Slide19
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