More than a bubble bath Finding ways to maintain vision and passion for your work - PowerPoint Presentation

1. More than a bubble bathFinding ways to maintain vision and passion for your workThis material has been adapted from the OEA Center for Great Public Schools

2. Books referenced in this presentation

3. Quote SortFind a quote that emulates RESILIENCE to you. Be prepared to talk to a partner about why you chose the quote, and why it is meaningful to you.

4. Overall objectivesRedefine ways of being Explore tools, strategies, and practices to build your resilienceReignite passion for your workBuild communityRestRejuvenate

5. Setting your intentionSetting an intention for how you want to show up for a learning opportunity can help ensure you get what you are looking for. Think about why you are here. What do you want to get out of the next 2 days? How will you engage with the content? With other participants? With your personal growth and core values?

6. Follow the icons:Table Talk: A quick turn and talk with a partner/group at your table.Partner up: Look for the prompt for getting up and grabbing a partner.Reflection: Take a moment or two for some personal reflection.

7. Playing CardsCard valueEmotionAnimalMovementDiceQuestionIconQuoteLetterimage

8. Community AgreementsActive listening, active participationRespectful use of technologyShare and honor diverse perspectivesAsk questions!

9. Session ObjectivesUnderstand the meaning of resilience and how to intentionally cultivate it in yourselfIdentify your core values and reflect on how you live into themWrite a mission statement to establish your priorities as an educator

10. What is Resilience?“The ability to overcome adversity.”

11. Quote“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.”- Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

12. ResilienceA way of being that allows us to bounce back quickly from adversity.Who we are and where we are impact our ability to cultivate resilience.Cultivated through engaging in specific habits and by fostering specific dispositions.What enables us to thrive.

13. The 5 most common factors of resilient people:They are resourceful and have good problem solving skills.They are more likely to seek help.They hold a belief that they can do something that will help them manage their feelings and to cope.They have social support available to them.They are connected to others, such as family or friends.Brown, Brene. The Gifts of Imperfection 2010

14. Know Yourself: Chapter 1When you know yourself well-when you understand your emotions, social identities, core values, and personality- you gain clarity on your purpose in life and in work. Being anchored in purpose makes you able to deal with setbacks and challenges.Rate each area of “self” on the How Well Do I Know Myself Scale on page 10.Respond to the following questions in your journal.In which area do you feel the most confident?In which area do you want to do further learning?Onward pgs 7-9 Workbook pgs 10-11

15. Elements of Self

16. Knowing your why…Comedian Michael Jr. goes Off the Cuff at live comedy show and uses this completely improve moment as a great illustration for knowing your why and purpose in life.

17. Identifying your core valuesRead through the list of values and circle ten that you feel are most important to you.Cross off five of those values, leaving you with the five that are the most important. Now, from your list of five values, cross off two, leaving you with the THREE values that are the most important to you.These are your core values!Onward WB pgs 25-27

18. Question, answer, switch, repeatEach person should grab a question card.Get up and find a partner with the same card number as you.Each person will read their question, and their partner will answer it.Once both partners have had a turn, swap cards and find another partner.

19. ReflectionHow does it feel to read your list of values? What did it feel like to do this activity?One year ago, what do you suspect your core values might have been? Ten years ago?Consider how your actions reflect your core values. Which values show up more often in your actions at work? At home? In social circles? With family?What are some ways in which your actions reflect your core values? Think of one example of how actions you take reflect your core values.Can you think of a time when your actions conflicted with a core value? How does it feel to remember those moments when there was a discrepancy between a value and your actions?Complete the reflection portion for this activity on page 25 of your workbook.

20. My mission statementI am a ___, ___, ___educator. (Where do you find fulfillment in teaching? What characteristics do you value in yourself that make you the teacher you are?)My mission is _____. (What do you stand for, and what impact do you wish to make on your students and the teaching profession?)I will do this by _____. (How will I express this to the teaching world? Who am I and how will my colleagues, students, and parents know?)Onward WB pgs 30-32

21. Share out!How does being grounded in your core values and creating a personal mission statement help you to be a more resilient educator?

22. Reflection How does it feel to see your mission statement?Read it aloud. How does it feel to hear yourself proclaim it?Share it with someone else. How does it feel to share? What was the person’s response?Do your core values show up in your mission statement?How will you lean into and set intention around your mission statement and core values starting today? Throughout your summer break? During the next school year?

23. Elements of self

24. Choose your own adventureValues:Onward pgs 24-25Workbook pgs 13-16, 23-32, 57, 67Personality:Onward pages 25-28Workbook pgs 17-22Socio-political Identity:Onward pages 29-31, 34-38Workbook pgs 50, 58Strengths and Aptitudes:Onward pgs 32-34Workbook pgs 34-44

25. Final reflection: write in journalWhat is one thing you learned or were reminded of in this session?What is something you want to learn more about?What questions do you still have?

26. Getting to know your emotionsSession 2

27. Community agreements Active listening, active participationRespectful use of technologyShare and honor diverse perspectivesAsk questions!

28. Session objectives Learn about regulation vs dysregulation and how to notice when your window of tolerance is shortExplore vulnerability and its impact as an emotionUnderstand the parts of the emotion cycle, and the points where intention and mindfulness can positively impact how we handle emotional situationsGain strategies for dealing with big emotions

29. Quote Me!!Talk to your partner about the quote that you chose about resilience. Why did you choose it?

30. Consider these questions:How comfortable are you thinking about and talking about emotions?How might your professional and personal life be different if you had greater knowledge and understanding of emotions?How might your life be different if you had more tools to respond to your emotions when they arise?

31. descriptionsPositive – Brief increases in heart rate, mild elevations in stress hormone levels.Tolerable – Serious, temporary stress responses, buffered by supportive relationships.Toxic – Prolonged activation of stress response systems in the absence of protective relationships.

32. Window of stress tolerance

33. Regulation / dysregulationRegulation is: The ability to experience and maintain stress within one’s window of tolerance. Generally referred to as being calm, focused, and relaxed.Dysregulation is: The experience of stress outside one’s window of tolerance, generally referred to as being stressed out or in a state of distress.

34. Ability to regulateInternal regulation: related to the ability to regulate both physiologically and psychologicallyExternal regulation: Behaviors in reaction to having – or not having – internal regulation

35. Sphere of influence“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t”Steve MaraboliWhat you can controlWhat you can influenceEverything else – outside of your control and influence

36. Try this…I can’t control the traffic, but I can control what time I leave in the morning.I can’t control my daughter’s feelings of frustration, but I can control how I react to them. I can’t control the work my students do at home, but I can control my expectations and positive feedback at school.I can’t control _____, but I can control _____.

37. Understand emotions: chapter 2Understanding emotions – accepting them and having strategies to respond to them – is essential to cultivate resilience. With that understanding of emotions, you can accept their existence, recognize where you can influence a situation, and let go of what is outside your control.Take the self-assessment on WB pgs 76-77. Identify one area that you feel is a strength for you, and one that you would like to learn more about. Write this in your journal.Onward pgs 45-67

38. Beliefs about feelingsThink about where this belief originated. Was it taught to you? Is it a belief you would like to shift?Workbook pg 79Not at allA littleSometimesA lot

39. Reflect:Discuss the following questions with a dice partner:What comes up for you in response to this activity?How has your life been affected by the messages that you received about emotions growing up?Which beliefs about emotions that you currently hold would you like to shift?

40. A dive into vulnerabilityWhat makes you feel vulnerable?What do you do when you feel vulnerable?When do you choose to be vulnerable?What motivates you to make that choice?

41. Vulnerability is the path! By brene brownRead the article.Identify a sentence, phrase, and word that you feel/think is particularly significant.In groups of 4, start by having each person share the sentence they chose. Then share the phrases, and finally the words.Discuss:What do you think this text is essentially about?How does vulnerability relate to resilience?More on vulnerability in Onward pgs 38-40

42. Cycle of emotionOnward pgs 47-49

43. Get to know an emotion cyclePrompting event: what event triggered this cycle? This is who, what, when and where.Interpretation: How did you interpret the event? This is the why.Physical response: what happened in your body?Urge to act: what did you want to do?Action: what did you actually do? What did you say? Be specific.After Effects: What was the consequence of what happened and how you responded?Workbook pgs 94-96

44. Reflect: Where in the cycle do you think you could most easily make a change and steer your experience in a different direction?Look at how you interpreted the event – stage 2. What other ways are there to see the situation? How might a different way to interpret the situation shift your emotional experience?If you had an intense physical response, you most likely need to start with the physiological aspect. When you body is on high alert, you won’t be able to think rationally. What could you do in the moment when you are experiencing an intense physical response?

45. Mindfulness

46. Dig a little deeper… here are some ideas!Read the chapter on emotions. (Onward pgs 45-67)Learn more about the emotion cycle. (Onward pgs 47-50, Workbook pg 94)Exploring Moments of Emotional Intensity (Workbook pgs 112-113)A dive into anger (Onward 60-64)You choose!!

47. Final reflection What questions do you still have?What is something that you learned or were reminded of from today’s session?What is the one thing you will commit to trying?How did you live into the intention you set this morning?

48. Telling empowering storiesSession 3

49. Community Agreements Active listening, active participationRespectful use of technologyShare and honor diverse perspectivesAsk questions!

50. Session objectives Learn how the stories we tell lead to positive thinking and empowermentLearn strategies for perspective taking as a way of challenging our initial thoughtsLearn about the most common cognitive distortions, and how to avoid them.

51. Setting your intention:Setting an intention for how you want to show up for a learning opportunity can help ensure you get what you are looking for. Think about why you are here. What do you want to get out of the next 2 days? How will you engage with the content? With other participants? With your personal growth?

52. Story telling (find you letter partner)Storytelling: Telling stories is good for our physical and communal health. When we tell stories and listen to others tell stories, our body produces more oxytocin. It can also help us to deal with tension and conflict if they arise.Choose a card from the center of the table, then find a partner. Swap stories with each other.Workbook pg 247

53. Tell empowering stories: chapter 3How you interpret and make sense of events is a juncture point where emotional resilience increases or depletes. You make the choice about what story to tell. When you tell empowering stories, your optimism may expand, and optimism is a key trait of resilient people.

54. Cycle of emotion Onward pgs 47-49What did this story bring up for you?How can we hold the control in the stories we tell?The beauty of life is that everything is an interpretation. Your thoughts. Your perception. Your reality.

55. Digging into the roots of interpretation:A parent emails asking to meet tomorrow.The copy machine is broken again.A student rolls his eyes when you ask him to do something.The principal didn’t greet you when you passed in the hallway.Onward pgs 72-73

56. Cognitive distortions charadesFind a partner with a similar image. Work together to design a brief skit for your distortion. Be prepared to act it out while the group tries to guess which one it is.Black and white thinkingJumping to conclusionsUnrealistic expectationsDisqualifying the positiveOvergeneralizingCatastrophizingEmotional ReasoningPersonalization

57. Sphere of influence What you can controlWhat you can influenceEverything else – outside of your control and influence

58. Challenge that thoughtPrompting Event (What triggered the distress?)Feeling (Name the feelings)Clarify your interpretation (What were your thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions about the situation?)Challenging evidence (see the list)More balanced interpretation (Rewrite your thoughts about the triggering event in a more balanced way. Stick to the facts.)Workbook pgs 166-171

59. ProtocolHow can you see yourself using this protocol to build your resilience?What are some benefits of looking at things from a different perspective?How does this protocol relate to The Sphere of Influence?

60. Crafting new storiesVisualization: Visualize what you would like to be true. What would you hear people saying? What would you see? Embellish, the story is all yours!! (WB 156-157)Affirmations: Saying affirmations to yourself raises your levels of feel-good hormones and pushes your brain to form new clusters of “positive thought” neurons. (WB 158)Intention Setting: Intention setting is a practice that helps you form new stories. Intention gives your mind a story to lean into. It helps you make a statement to yourself about how you will experience something or be in a situation. (WB 136-139)

61. Take a moment…What questions do you still have?What is something that you learned or were reminded of from today’s session?What is one thing you will commit to trying?

62. Building connection

63. Community Agreements Active listening, active participationRespectful use of technologyShare and honor diverse perspectivesAsk questions!

64. Find a common bond…Look at the icon on your playing card. Find a person who has an icon with a common bond.Be prepared to share how you found each other and what your bond is.

65. Build community: chapter 4We are social beings, and we need each other to thrive. A strong, healthy community can bolster us through challenging moments and bring joy to our lives. When we build community, we can build empathy for each other, and building empathy for each other helps us build community.

66. communityRefine CommunicationLearn From Body LanguageFocus on Cultural CompetenceAddress ConflictOnward pg 105-119

67. How do you trust?After I read a statement, you will decide how strongly you agree or disagree with it by taking no step (disagree), a little step (somewhat agree), or a big step (strongly agree) forward.What did you learn from this activity?What do you feel are your strengths in building trust with others?How might you strengthen the trust you build with others?Workbook pgs 220-222

68. BravingBoundariesYou respect my boundaries, and when you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, you ask. You’re willing to say no.AccountabilityYou own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends.IntegrityYou choose courage over comfort. You choose what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy. And you choose to practice your values rather than simply professing them.ReliabilityYou do what you say you’ll do. At work, this means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t overpromise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities.VaultYou don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. I need to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.Non-judgementI can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment.GenerosityYou extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of others.Brene Brown

69. Listen to your own listeningTake a few minutes to read Workbook page 248. Which of these mental journeys do you tend to go on when you are listening to others? Which one do you view as a strength? What about an area for growth? Write your reflection in your journal.Workbook pgs 248-249

70. Practice (find your animal partner)Read the question from your card, and have your partner take at least 3 minutes to respond. As they speak, pay attention to your mental journey.ConnectionFix itDisagreeUncomfortable feelingComfortable feelingSpacing outPlanning an exit strategyOther

71. Body language,fake it till you make it

72. Reflect: Cuddy says that “body language has an immediate effect on other people’s judgement.” Do you agree with this? What have been some examples of this in your life?How does the idea of “fake it until you become it” apply in your context as a teacher or leader? How relevant is this to you?Workbook pg 229

73. Six communication steps:Listen deeply to the message that is being sent.Reassure the person that their perspective is important.Validate their emotional state.Respond. A response is an explanation, not a defending statement, about what actually occurred.Repair includes a heartfelt apology for whatever role you have played in the miscommunication or strife. It does not necessarily mean you are accepting responsibility for what took place, just that you recognize the other person’s experience and are sorry it turned out like it did.Resolution means coming to terms with what happened and collaborating to prevent further conflict.Hall, Pete. Fostering Resilient Learners, 2016

74. Scenario #1Johnny’s mom is coming in HOT!! She is ready to take you on, and she is not afraid to show it. She barges in the classroom after school and accuses you of calling her kid “stupid” during class, and of playing favorites with the other students. She claims that her son Johnny has no chance of success in your class because you have it in for him – and he knows it.This parent is obviously dysregulated! Take a moment to discuss a plan with your table on how you would use the 6 communication steps to work through this scenario.

75. Scenario #2You are in a team meeting and one of your team members is making rude remarks about the students in her class. You have heard her say that she hates her ELL kids because they can’t do anything and they bring her scores down. Today, she is talking about how low her class is and how dumb some of her students are. You roll your eyes and ask her to stop talking about her students like that. She looks over at you surprised, gets up and pushes her chair back, tells you to mind your own business, and stomps out of the room.You know you need to go talk to her because you work together all the time. Use the 6 steps of communication to form a plan. How will you use the steps to resolve her feeling from the meeting, and also let her know how you feel when she talks like that about her students?

76. Develop cultural competence:Cultural competence is the ability to understand, appreciate, and interact with people from different cultures or belief systems different from one’s own. In order to be culturally competent, you must be able to do the following:Be aware of your own cultural identity, beliefs about difference, and unconscious biases.Have knowledge about the general role that culture plays (in enforcing norms, communication, emotions, relationships) as well as knowledge about specific other cultures.Effectively navigate difference. Self-awareness and knowledge don’t automatically translate into the ability to do something.Onward pgs 113-116

77. A plan for developing cultural competenceGiven the definition on page 211 in the workbook, what do you feel are your areas for growth?What thoughts do you have about how you could make growth in this area?Who might be a partner on this learning journey? Are there colleagues who might also join you in developing cultural competence? Are there people who might provide resources?What might be a first step to develop your cultural competence? What could you do today? This week? Over the next several months?Workbook pg 212

78. Take a moment… What questions do you still have?What is something that you learned or were reminded of from today’s session?What is one thing you will commit to trying?