Monday March 6 2017 Sound familiar Put your notes away Its time to take the test says your teacher You feel paralyzed by fear Your stomach tightens Your palms get sweaty As your teacher places the test paper on your table your mind goes blank ID: 621500
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Monday’s Moment w/Mama Boas
Monday, March 6, 2017Slide2Slide3
Sound familiar?
“Put your notes away. It’s time to take the test,” says your teacher.
You feel paralyzed by fear.
Your stomach tightens.
Your palms get sweaty.
As your teacher places the test paper on your table, your mind goes blank.Slide4
Why is IT Scary?
Fear of losing out.
Fear of exams.
Fear of disappointment.
Fear of failure.
This is understandable. After all, we live in a society that places a heavy emphasis on performance and achievement, so parents, self, and friends have high expectations.Slide5Slide6
Overcoming the fear of failure
Progressing through the 3 stagesSlide7
Stage 1: Approval
Do you have insecurities you need to deal with?
What’s the root cause of those insecurities?
Do you have any unhealthy thought patterns?
Are you committed to changing those thought patterns?
Who can you talk to about these issues
?Slide8
As writer Anna
Quindlen
said,
“If your success is not on your own terms,
if it looks good to the world but
does not feel good in your heart,
it is not success at all
.”Slide9
Stage 2: Acceptance
Accept Yourself Fully
strengths,
talents,
shortcomings, and
inadequacies.
Become more purpose-driven in your pursuits, try to not become so fixated on performance.Slide10
To continue to make progress toward overcoming your fear of failure,
declare to yourself
daily
that—even though your academics are important—your identity isn’t based on how many accomplishments you rack up.Slide11
Stage 3: Adventure
Begin to see education as an adventure of discovery!
This will help you to become intrinsically motivated.
Once you’re motivated, you will work hard to be the best
you
can be, instead of trying to be better than
your
peers.
Are
you a
striver – always striving to be the best? Slide12
Maintaining
Given that we live in a stressful, competitive society, it’s easy to regress from Stage 3 to Stage 2, or even Stage 1.
Thus, when you reach Stage 3, it becomes even more important to surround yourself with like-minded people.
Stage 3 is about becoming a lifelong learner.Slide13Slide14
Notes from Boas
After many hours of reading and studying, I find this topic to be extremely complicated and can be a cyclical obstacle for students.
There is no one way to help a student overcome the idea that they must be perfect; however, the root is in
how we
– as adults –
frame
our conversations so that we are not always asking for the results of performance or requiring performance-driven outcomes.
The information from this PowerPoint came directly
from
this site which I appreciate in its simplicity and “reader-friendly” format:
https://personalexcellence.co/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure-student/