1 Theyre Charming This person quickly smothers the other with gifts and praise Heshe immediately pushes for an exclusive relationship using phrases such as I cant live without you or Ill kill myself if you leave A clear indication something is wrong ID: 524220
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12 Characteristics of an AbuserSlide2
1. They’re Charming
This person quickly smothers the other with gifts and praise. He/she immediately pushes for an exclusive relationship using phrases such as “I can’t live without you” or “I’ll kill myself if you leave.” A clear indication something is wrong.Slide3
2. They’re Jealous
He/she views others as a threat to the relationship and relentlessly accuses you of flirting. “I know you are having an affair.” The irony is that the abuser is usually the cheater.Slide4
3. They’re Manipulative
Abuse and manipulation go hand-in-hand. This person easily detects vulnerability in others and uses it as a weapon to control, belittle and demean the victim. “You are weak and ugly; no wonder you were abused as a kid.”Slide5
4. They’re Controlling
Constant checking on the whereabouts of the victim is a common trait for the abuser. “I check the mileage on your car. So don’t lie to me.” A male controller often refuses to let his girlfriend have a job, she might “meet someone.”Slide6
5. They Play the Victim
An abuser doesn’t take any responsibility for his/ her poor choices. They are never at fault. When she loses her job, or he gets into a fight, someone else is to blame. “You make me hit you” or “I drink because you stress me out.” Slide7
6. They’re Narcissistic
The whole world revolves around the abuser and his/her needs. This person is invigorated by the fact that the victims “walks on eggshells” and live in fear of the next outburst.Slide8
7. They’re Inconsistent
Mood swings are a common trait for an abuser. One minute he/she is happy and sweet, the next they are pounding a fist or throwing a tantrum.Slide9
8. They’re very Critical
Verbally assaulting others is a way of life for the abuser. “You are a stupid, fat, disgusting
tramp. You can’t ever leave me; no other man would have you” or “Ha! You call yourself a man. You are nothing but a mama’s boy.”Slide10
9. They’re Disconnected
Isolation from family and friends is a key goal for the abuser because it forces the victim into total submission. “Your family causes too much trouble for us. I don’t want you seeing them anymore.”
Make time for me, don’t leave me lonely
And know we’ll never see your family more than mineSlide11
10. They’re Hypersensitive
The slightest offense sends the abuser ranting. Everyone is out to “get him/her.” “My boss had it in for me; I bend over backwards on my job but I still got fired.”Slide12
11. Vicious and Cruel
A significant number of abusers harm children and animals as well as a partner. Intimidation and inflicting pain fuels his/her power. “If I can’t have you, no one will” or “I just pretended to love you so that you would sleep with me.” Slide13
12. They’re I
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epentantHe/she will swear to never “behave like that again.” But unless an abuser receives professional help and solid accountability it’s unlikely the abuse will disappear. Slide14
Song Assignment Extra Credit
Does your song demonstrate any of these abusive characteristics?
Discuss during your presentation