Laura a riffel phd Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports 35 Behavioral Expectations Taught Telling isnt teaching and being told is not the same as being taught Imprinted Adults model the same behaviors What they see is what we get ID: 552527
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Having fun changing behavior
Laura a.
riffel
,
ph.d.Slide2
Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports
3-5 Behavioral Expectations
Taught
Telling isn’t teaching and being told is not the same as being taught
Imprinted
Adults model the same behaviors- What they see is what we get
Practiced
Children are shown how to enact the behaviors
Praised
Behavior Specific PraiseSlide3
When your child comes home with a ticket
Make a big deal out of it
Ask them what behavior they had that earned the ticket
Help them generalize.
What would that look like at home?
What would that look like at the grocery store?Slide4
choresSlide5
Most ages
can have
choresSlide6
Earn points
Chores
Points
Make your bed
50 points
Unload the dishwasher
75 points
Rinse
dishes and load dishwasher
50 pointsFold towels25 pointsRun sweeper25 pointsClean bathroom100 pointsScoop doggie poo in the back yard125 pointsDust shelves75 pointsSlide7
Matt wins for the day and gets to choose what mom cooks for dinner or some other reinforcement
Suzy
Matt
50
points- made bed
50 points- made bed
75 points- unloaded dishwasher
75 points- dusted
shelves
25 points- Folded towels125 points- scooped doggie poo100 points- cleaned bathroom25 points- run sweeper250 points275 pointsSlide8
If your kids act up- don’t ground them- tell them they have to earn a certain number of points for the daySlide9
Reinforce appropriate behaviorSlide10
Five languages of appreciation in the workplace
Chapman & White (2012)
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Acts of Service
Tangible Gifts
Physical TouchSlide11
ReinforcementsSlide12
PALPATES
1)
P
rivileges (Earning special privileges)
2)
A
ttention (Quality Time with Adults and Peers)
3)
L
eadership (Earning Leadership Roles) 4) Praise (Social Praise- Name in Lights) 5) Assistance (Special Assistance in a Topic of Their Choice) 6) Touch (High Five) 7) Escape (Escape from a Task or Chore) 8) Supplies (School Supplies) Slide13
PrivilegesSlide14
Get to sit in the “recliner” to watch televisionSlide15
attentionSlide16
Get to be an only child for a few hoursSlide17
LeadershipSlide18
Get to choose what game the family plays for family game nightSlide19
PraiseSlide20
Get to call grandparents and brag about awesome behaviorSlide21
AssistanceSlide22
Help them clean their room- or rearrange it.Slide23
touchSlide24
WrestlingSlide25
escapeSlide26
Escape 1 choreSlide27
suppliesSlide28
Cool school supplies earned with good behaviorSlide29
How to Use Your Magic Wand and Have a Well Behaved Child
Laura A. Riffel, Ph.D.Slide30
Ten Things You Should Know
1. Behavior is learned and serves a specific purpose.Slide31
Ten Things You Should Know
2. Behavior is related to the context within which it occurs.
Different context=Different behaviorSlide32
Ten Things You Should Know
3. For every year that a behavior has been in place, you should plan to spend at least one month of consistent and appropriate intervention for you to see a change in the behavior.- This is a rule of thumb.Slide33
Ten Things You Should Know
4. We can improve behavior by 80% just by pointing out what one person is doing correctly.Slide34
Ten Things You Should Know
5. We know we can improve behavior by 80%, yet we use it less than 10% of the time.Slide35
3x5 index card
Tears for positives
Tears for negatives
11 to 5Slide36
Energy Flows Where Attention GoesSlide37
Ten Things You Should Know
6. When we want compliance from our children, we should whisper in their right ear and offer them equal choices.Slide38
Ten Things You Should Know
7. All behavior falls into two categories: Kids are either trying to gain something or escape something by their inappropriate behaviors.Slide39
Ten Things You Should Know
8. Things kids are trying to get:
Attention- (adults or siblings)
Access (preferred items)
Sensory input (proprioceptive input)Slide40
Ten Things You Should Know
9. Kids are trying to escape these things:
Work or Tasks
Attention from Adults , Siblings, Peers
Pain (emotional or physical)
Sensory overload (too much coming in)Slide41
Ten Things You Should Know
10. Your reaction determines whether a behavior will happen again or not. To change child behavior- we have to change our behavior.Slide42
All Behavior IS Communication
Doesn’t matter the age
Doesn’t matter the sex
Doesn’t matter the intellectual abilities
Doesn’t matter the language ability
Doesn’t matter the physical abilitiesSlide43
To Be a Real Intervention it has to do the following:
Stop the behavior
Be proactive- not reactive
Match the function of the behavior
Include a replacement behavior
Include environmental changes to set the child up for success
Include
changes to how we react to the replacement behavior and the target behaviorSlide44
These are not interventions
Telling a child to “BE GOOD”
Telling a child
to “quit, stop, don’t, or no”
Corporal punishment
Ridiculing the child
Yelling at the child
Giving the child technology
to stop behavior
Giving a child a toy to stop behaviorSlide45
We have to make it more fun to do the right behavior…….Slide46
www.fitbit.com – More Fun
Disney Marathon Weekend
Dot Trot (Thanksgiving)
Mother’s Day- Breast Cancer
Fourth of JulySlide47
Getting Behavior in Shape at HomeSlide48
Taylor refuses to eat dinner
Taylor doesn’t like food that is good for her.
She fills up on other things before dinner.
Parents give a ton of attention when dinner is refused.Slide49
Taylor will eat Slide50
Give Taylor Chef Duties and tell her she has to plan a meal using 3 of these menu items
Not my pictureSlide51
Cook together then- clean plate= free choice next night
As Taylor eats more and more, give more and more praise for eating dinner and doing a good job planning a good meal.
Add choices to more healthy choices, keeping one thing you know Taylor will eat.
Taylor feels power because there were choices
We changed the environment, replaced the behavior, and changed
the consequencesSlide52
Boys vs Girls
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity DisorderSlide53
Around 2 years of age- every parent questions
Does my child have ADHD
40Slide54
Most behavior that parents consider hyperactive is perfectly normal behaviorSlide55
Center of GravitySlide56
Make the seating more comfortable
Dining room table- where most kids jump up and run around and parents want them to sit down
Foot fidget
Velcro under table where they sit
Air filled cushion
Finger fidgets
Amazon.com $12.99Slide57
My expectations for fidget tools
Must be quiet
Must be one handed
Must stay with you
Must help you pay attention
Can hook on belt loop of pants, backpack, diaper bag, car seat,
Highchair (keeps out of mouth)Slide58
Sleep
CRS????- Can’t Remember Sleep?????Slide59
Getting Children to Bed on TimeSlide60
Do you suffer from CRS? Can’t Remember Sleep?
From early on children learn that it is much more rewarding to stay up than go to bed on time.
Parents and Teachers suffer the consequences of children who do not go to bed on time.
Dr. Riffel has taken philosophies from
Love and Logic, Positive Behavior Support
and
Super Nanny
and tied them together to create a fail safe way to get some sleep yourself because your children will be tucked in bed safe and sound and on time.Slide61
Setting a Bed Time
Most parents wait until very late to start moving their children toward bedtime.
Here are some guidelines:
One month old- 16 hours
Three months old 15 hours
Six months- 14 hours
Nine months- 14 hours
12 months- 13-14 hours
1-3 years old– 13-14 hrs a day
3-6 years old– 10.5-12 hrs a day7-12—10-11 hrs a day13-18– 8 ¼ -9 ½ hrs a dayDo the math- if your 2 year old child (who does not nap) must rise at 8 a.m. then they should be asleep by 7 p.m. Most of the parents I know say their children go to bed at 9 or 10 p.m.From WebMDStart using this at this timeSlide62
We discussed sleep methods for infants earlierSlide63
Make a chart
Take a picture of the clock in your house so the child knows what the clock looks like at bedtime.
Post this on the refrigerator.
Put a picture of Mom & Dad being proud of the child with a affirmation statement about going to bed on time.
Bedtime for
Bonzo
Mommy & Daddy are so proud of
Bonzo
when she goes to bed on time.Slide64
Important Ingredient:
Don’t wait till 8:00 to start getting your child ready for bed each evening.
If bedtime is 8:00 then turn off the TV or Computer at 7:20 and say something like this:
“Do you want to go to bed now, or thirty minutes from now?”
Any red blooded child will say “30 minutes from now” and that’s when you make deposit number one.
Say,
“Good choice.”
Turn back on whatever they were doing and go about your business.Slide65
At 7:50 say this:
Do you want a piggy back ride to bed or a horsey back ride to bed?
(not recommended if your child is 16)
Whatever your child replies, you say,
“Good choice.”
Give them a ride to bed.Slide66
When you get down to the bedroom, say:
“Do you want to wear your blue, yellow or red pajamas?”
Whatever your child says, you say,
“Good Choice.”Slide67
Brushing Teeth
You are getting the hang of it. Here we go…. “Do you want to brush your teeth with the yellow toothbrush or the blue toothbrush?”
Whatever the child says, you say,
“Good Choice.”Slide68
Toothpaste????
“
Do you want striped toothpaste or sparkle toothpaste?”
Whatever the child says, you say:
“Good choice.”Slide69
Do you want me to sing:
Twinkle, Twinkle little star or Eency Weency Spider while you brush your teeth?
Whatever the child says, you say,
“Good choice.”Slide70
Do you want to drink your water from a cup or a glass?
Whatever they say, you say,
“Good choice.”Slide71
Do you want to hear one bedtime story or two?
Whatever they say, you say,
“Good Choice.”
PS- Get a book with lots of very short stories in it.Slide72
Prayers
“Do you want to say your prayers by yourself and I listen or do you want me to say them with you?”
Whatever they say, you say,
“Good choice.”Slide73
Do you want the music on or the music off?
Whatever they say, you say,
“Good choice.”Slide74
Lights on or Lights off?
Whatever they say, you say,
“Good Choice.”Slide75
Door open or door closed?
Whatever they say, you say,
“Good choice.”Slide76
Review the Night
Label all the appropriate behavior:
I like the way you:
Chose
A piggy back ride
Your blue pajamas
The red toothbrush
The sparkle toothpaste
The water from a cup
The bedtime storyThe prayer with momThe music onThe lights offThe door openSleep tight, see you in the morning.Slide77
About the time you hit the door, most kids will say something like…. “Oooh, but I love you. I want to stay up with you.”
This is where you get to make your withdrawal.
All those statements of “Good choice”, those were deposits into the child’s head.
Now that you have made deposits, you can make a withdrawal.Slide78
Turn around and smile at your child. (After all they are looking very cherubic at the moment. This happens to be a look that has worked for them before.)
Say this, “Hey, who’s been making all the choices tonight? (Now you know why I told you to say that every time.) You’ve been making all the choices. Don’t I get a chance once in a while? Thanks for understanding. See you in the morning.” Walk out the door and head down the hall. (This is called expected compliance where you assume the child will do what you just told them to do.) Slide79
What will most kids do at this point?
A. Go to bed without a sound.
B. Wet their pants
C. Follow you out the door and beg.Slide80
Most important key: Make no eye contact.
Pick your child up and carry them back and set them on their bed and walk back out.
Never look them in the eye or say any words.
Just keep picking them up, carrying them back, setting them on their bed, and walking back out the door.Slide81
The child comes out…Slide82
You take them back.Slide83
The child comes out…Slide84
You take them back.Slide85
Repeat the process
until your
Child stays in bed.Slide86
Do not decide to start
this on a Sunday night,
when you have a big meeting
in the morning.Slide87
You and your child will be sleeping like a baby in no time.Slide88
For more information:
University of Michigan and Chicago found offering children equal choices increases the likelihood of compliance
Labeling behavior ahead of time is an evidence based approach learned in PBIS
Not feeding the behavior is part of Applied Behavior AnalysisSlide89
These clocks are amazing.
Amazon.com- children’s sleep wake trainers – there are many choices on
www.amazon.com
45Slide90
Greatest Impact
Nine most important minutes between a parent and a childSlide91
When the child wakes up in the morningSlide92
When you all get back together again in the eveningSlide93
The last 3 minutes when you put your child to bed.Slide94
Power of Moms- Amy Makechnie