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Habit 5

Seek First to Understand,

Then to Be UnderstoodSlide2

ASCA Standards

PS:A2.6 Use effective communication skills

PS: A2.2 Recognize alternative points

of view

PS:A2.7 Know that communication involves speaking, listening and nonverba

l behaviorSlide3

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Grade Standards

S1C1

PO 1. Generate ideas through a variety of activities (e.g., prior knowledge, discussion with others, printed material or other sources).

Concept 6: Conventions addresses the mechanics of writing, including capitalization, punctuation, spelling, grammar and usage, and paragraph breaks.Slide4

Quick Write

What do you think this quote means?

“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”Slide5

Brainstorm

How do you show others you care about them?

How do others show you they care about you?

How do you feel when someone does not listen to you?

Have you ever been a poor listener? Slide6

What is the deepest need of the human heart?

The deepest need in our hearts is to be understood.

Think of a situation when someone didn’t take the time to understand or listen to you. Were you open to listen to what they had to say? Why or why not? Share at your tables.Slide7

Please Listen

When I ask you to listen to me

And you start giving me advice,

You have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me

And you begin to tell me why

I shouldn’t feel that way,

You are trampling on my feelings

When I ask you to listen to me

And you feel you have to do something

To solve my problem,

You have failed me,

Strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I ask is that you listen.

Don’t talk or do---just hear me.Slide8

5 Poor Listening Styles

Spacing Out

You

mind is wandering off and you are consumed by your own thoughts

Pretend

Listening

You

are not paying much attention to the person but you are acting like you are. You might nod your head, say “yeah”, “cool”, “sounds great”

Selective

Listening

You only pay attention

to the part of the conversation that interests you.

Word Listening

You are paying attention to the words, but you are not in tune to the emotions, body language, or tone of voice

Self-Centered Listening

You are listening but seeing everything from your own point of view. You might say,

“I know exactly how you feel.”Slide9

Judging, Advising, & Probing

Judging

You are making judgments about them and

you are no longer really listening, you are just judging

Advising

You start giving advice from

your own experience. When I was your age….

Probing

You are trying

to dig up emotions before people are ready to share them. Have you ever been probed by your parents, friends, teachers, siblings, etc.Slide10

Genuine ListeningSlide11

Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears

Notice how you can change the meaning of a sentence by emphasizing a different word.

I

didn’t say you had an attitude problem.

I didn’t say

you

had an attitude problem.

I didn’t say you had an

attitude

problem.Slide12

Stand in Their Shoes

“Walk a mile in their shoes.”

You must try to see the world as they see it and try to feel as they feel.

Tinted Glasses Story

Often times conversations are viewed as a competition that someone has to “win”. Really both people can win because both are coming from different points of view.Slide13

Practice Mirroring

Think like a mirror. What does a mirror do? It doesn’t judge. It doesn’t give advice. It reflects.

Mirroring means to repeat back in your own words what the other person is feeling and saying.

When you mirror you use your own words, are warm and caring, and are repeating meaning.Slide14

Let’s try mirroring…

Sentence Stems:

So, as I see it…

What I am hearing you say is…

I can see that your feeling…

You feel that…

So, what your saying is…Slide15

QUICK WRITE

Why is it important to seek first to understand, then to be understood?