Factors Associated With Excessive ParentTeen Conflict 1 Poor Problem Solving Skills 2 Poor Communication Skills 3 Structural Problems in the Family Parents who dont work as a team ID: 393269
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Aliens From Another MotherSlide2
Factors Associated With
Excessive Parent-Teen Conflict:
1.
Poor Problem Solving Skills
2.
Poor Communication Skills
3.
Structural
Problems in the Family:
·
Parent’s who don’t work as a team
·
Teen manipulates parents
·
Triangulation (indirect communication)Slide3
4.
Misguided Assumptions & Thinking:
*negative, self-directed beliefs
produce depression
& anxiety ~
*negative other-directed beliefs produce
anger
A. Problem Beliefs for Teens:
·
Ruination:
if parents put too many restrictions on teens, this will ruin the teen’s life
·
Fairness:
parent’s rules are terribly unfair and unjust
·
Autonomy:
teens should have as much freedom as they desire
·
Approval:
it is catastrophic for teens if parents do not approve of the teen’s actions
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4. Misguided Assumptions
& Thinking
B.
Problem Beliefs For Parents:
·
Ruination:
if parents give teens too much freedom, the teen will make mistakes or misbehave in ways which will ruin their future lives
·
Perfectionism:
teens should instinctively know how to behave properly all the time without any parental intervention, and it is terrible upsetting if teens do not always behave perfectly
·
Obedience:
teens should always do what their parents say without questioning their parent’s judgment
·
Self-blame:
parents are at fault for teens’ mistakes or misbehavior
·
Malicious Intent:
teens misbehave on purpose to hurt their parents
·
Approval:
it is terribly upsetting if teens do not approve of parent’s rules, regulations, and decisionsSlide5
Inconsistent Consequences for Teen
& Positive Payoff for Conflict
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F
ind Your Teenager’s CheeseSlide8
How Do Teens Think?
Thinking About Self
Teens' Preoccupation With
Self
Fads
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Part of Teens'
Self-Image
Teens' Feelings of
Uniqueness –
“You just don’t understand!”
The Magical Thinking of Teens
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"It Will Never Happen to
Me“Slide9
Thinking About Values
Questioning of Beliefs
-
"
I don't believe in that anymore
"
Seeing the Picture as Only Black or White
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"
Don't talk to me about honesty! You're dishonest, and I'm not going to listen to you
anymore"
Allowing for Growth and Development
Maturing of Thought Slide10
Career
Interests
• Peer group influences interests and
clothing styles
• Mostly interested in present and near future
• Greater ability to
work
Sexuality
• Girls ahead of boys
• Same-sex friends and
group activities
• Shyness, blushing and modesty
• Show-off qualities
• Greater interest in privacy
• Experimentation with
body
• Worries about being
normal
Ethics and Self-Direction
• Rule and limit-testing
• Occasional experimentation with
cigarettes, marijuana
and alcohol• Capacity for abstract thought
NORMAL ADOLESCENT DEVELOPMENT
Early
Adolescence (12-14 years
)
Movement Towards Independence
• Struggle with sense of identity
• Moodiness
• Improved abilities to use speech to
express oneself
• More likely to express feelings by action
than by
words
• Close friendships gain importance
• Less affection shown to parents, with
occasional rudeness
•
Realization that parents are not perfect; identification of their faults
• Search for new people to love in addition to parents
• Tendency to return to childish behaviorSlide11
Middle Adolescence (14-17 years
)
Movement Towards Independence
• Self-involvement, alternating between
unrealistically high
expectations and poor self-concept
• Complaints that parents interfere with independence
• Extremely concerned with appearance
and with
one’s body
• Feelings of strangeness about one’s self
and body
• Lowered opinion of parents, withdrawal
of emotions
from them
• Effort to make new friends
• Strong emphasis on the peer group
• Periods of sadness as the psychological loss
of the
parents takes
place
Career
Interests• Examination of inner experiences, which may include
writing a diary
• Intellectual interests gain
importance
Sexuality
• Concerns about sexual attractiveness
• Frequently changing relationships
• Movement towards heterosexuality with fears of homosexuality
• Tenderness and fears shown toward opposite sex
• Feelings of love and passion
Ethics and Self-Direction
• Development of ideals and selection of role models
• More consistent evidence of conscience
• Greater capacity for setting goals
• Interest in moral reasoningSlide12
Late
Adolescence (17-19 years
)
Movement Towards Independence
• Firmer identity
• Ability to delay gratification
• Ability to think ideas through
• Ability to express feelings in words
• More developed sense of humor
• Stable interests
• Greater emotional stability
• Ability to make independent decisions
• Ability to compromise
• Pride in one’s work
• Self-reliance
• Greater concern for
others
Career Interests
• More defined work habits
• Higher level of concern for the future
• Thoughts about one’s role in
life
Sexuality• Concerned with serious relationships
• Clear sexual identity
• Capacities for tender and sensual love
Ethics and Self-Direction
• Capable of useful insight
• Stress on personal dignity and self-esteem
• Ability to set goals and follow through
• Acceptance of social institutions and cultural traditions
• Self-regulation of self-esteem