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slide1. Dealing with Rejection<br>
slide2. Background No-one like rejection. Rejection hurts. And it hurts regardless of who is rejecting you or how you’re getting rejected.
Yet, rejection is part of life.
What is the alternative? A life less lived? Rejection can serve as proof we are living our life to the fullest.
Moreover, in order to grow, we have to be willing to step outside our comfort zone and take risks every so often. That’s where the learning happens.<br>
slide3. Famous authors and rejection<br>
slide5. Why rejection is good for you<br>
slide6. Recall
Re-adjust expectations
Refocus on controllable areas
Reconsider the process, not just the outcome
Receive rejection 5 R’s of Managing Rejection<br>
slide7. 5 R’s of Managing Rejection Recall – Recall a similar time when you’ve felt this way, and got through it. Tell yourself that no matter how awful you feel right now, it will pass.
Re-adjust expectations - “Hope for the best but expect the worst.” Whenever you’re rejected, it’s also a time to consider whether your expectations were realistic or not. Try setting preferences instead of hard expectations.
Refocus – Concentrate on those things you can control. You can’t control what other people think or feel but you can control you how you respond to the situation.
Reconsider the process – Apply the lessons you can; learn from the process.
Receive rejection – Face it. Acknowledge the emotions involved rather than suppress, ignore or deny the pain. Treat yourself with compassion.<br>
slide8. The most effective way you can view rejection is through any of three new “life lenses”.
These lenses are viable alternatives to seeing the world from a single perspective, and each lens can help you intentionally cultivate more positive emotions. Life Lenses<br>
slide9. The reverse lens
The reverse lens allows you to ask yourself, ‘What would a trusted, understanding friend say about my current situation? The long lens
Wearing the long lens you ask, ‘How will I most likely view the situation in six months, a year’s time?’ The wide lens
With the wide lens you ask yourself, ‘Regardless of the outcome of this situation, how can I learn and grow from it? Life Lenses<br>
slide10. Other people as mirrors “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
(Carl Jung)
Do you reject others before they can reject you? Sometimes rejection is projection. We can deny unpleasant feeling within ourselves and ‘project’ them onto other people.
What we see in others is a mirror of ourselves.<br>
slide11. Be aware of everything and everyone you reject. Reject with mindfulness.
Ask yourself:
What is it about this person that I strongly like or dislike?
Do I have any of those traits in my personality (or the propensity to display those traits)?
Have I ever done anything in my past that’s similar to how they are showing up now?
Am I repressing any of those same qualities within myself?
What can I do to bring them to the surface and work through them?
What is this person teaching me that I need to learn to become more whole? Other people as mirrors<br>
slide12. Acceptance and Self-Rejection Broadly, there are basic ways of relating to oneself.
Acceptance; or
Rejection Don’t let rejection define you.<br>
slide13. Risk being seen<br>
slide2. Background No-one like rejection. Rejection hurts. And it hurts regardless of who is rejecting you or how you’re getting rejected.
Yet, rejection is part of life.
What is the alternative? A life less lived? Rejection can serve as proof we are living our life to the fullest.
Moreover, in order to grow, we have to be willing to step outside our comfort zone and take risks every so often. That’s where the learning happens.<br>
slide3. Famous authors and rejection<br>
slide5. Why rejection is good for you<br>
slide6. Recall
Re-adjust expectations
Refocus on controllable areas
Reconsider the process, not just the outcome
Receive rejection 5 R’s of Managing Rejection<br>
slide7. 5 R’s of Managing Rejection Recall – Recall a similar time when you’ve felt this way, and got through it. Tell yourself that no matter how awful you feel right now, it will pass.
Re-adjust expectations - “Hope for the best but expect the worst.” Whenever you’re rejected, it’s also a time to consider whether your expectations were realistic or not. Try setting preferences instead of hard expectations.
Refocus – Concentrate on those things you can control. You can’t control what other people think or feel but you can control you how you respond to the situation.
Reconsider the process – Apply the lessons you can; learn from the process.
Receive rejection – Face it. Acknowledge the emotions involved rather than suppress, ignore or deny the pain. Treat yourself with compassion.<br>
slide8. The most effective way you can view rejection is through any of three new “life lenses”.
These lenses are viable alternatives to seeing the world from a single perspective, and each lens can help you intentionally cultivate more positive emotions. Life Lenses<br>
slide9. The reverse lens
The reverse lens allows you to ask yourself, ‘What would a trusted, understanding friend say about my current situation? The long lens
Wearing the long lens you ask, ‘How will I most likely view the situation in six months, a year’s time?’ The wide lens
With the wide lens you ask yourself, ‘Regardless of the outcome of this situation, how can I learn and grow from it? Life Lenses<br>
slide10. Other people as mirrors “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
(Carl Jung)
Do you reject others before they can reject you? Sometimes rejection is projection. We can deny unpleasant feeling within ourselves and ‘project’ them onto other people.
What we see in others is a mirror of ourselves.<br>
slide11. Be aware of everything and everyone you reject. Reject with mindfulness.
Ask yourself:
What is it about this person that I strongly like or dislike?
Do I have any of those traits in my personality (or the propensity to display those traits)?
Have I ever done anything in my past that’s similar to how they are showing up now?
Am I repressing any of those same qualities within myself?
What can I do to bring them to the surface and work through them?
What is this person teaching me that I need to learn to become more whole? Other people as mirrors<br>
slide12. Acceptance and Self-Rejection Broadly, there are basic ways of relating to oneself.
Acceptance; or
Rejection Don’t let rejection define you.<br>
slide13. Risk being seen<br>