Parenting A workshop by Julie Miller and Tiffany Cornett Information obtained and adapted from True Parenting How to Foster Deeper Family Ties and a Harmonious Home True Success Book ID: 552735
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Colors Parenting
A workshop
by
Julie Miller and Tiffany
Cornett
Information obtained and adapted from:
True
Parenting: How to Foster Deeper Family Ties and a Harmonious Home
(
True Success Book
)
By Kathy HaywardSlide2
Understanding your own personality will help you to understand your child’s personality and behaviors. Complete the quiz provided to discover your personality color.
Fill in the follow along worksheet for this session.
Finding Your Personality Slide3
You now have your personality color. You may have a secondary color if your score was within one or two points from your main color.
If this occurs, you will have a dominate and a recessive color to create a combined personality color.
Personality ColorsSlide4
Acts on a moments noticeSees life as a game of chance
Needs stimulation/freedom/excitement/values action
Natural leader
Troubleshooter
Performer
Bored easily (with careers and routine/structure)
Seek relationships with people who share interests.
Enjoy giving gifts that bring joy. Learn by doing and experiencing. Competitive
OrangeSlide5
Orange continued..
Strength
Keys to personal success
Need freedom to take immediate action.
Zest for life
Desire to test the limits.
Prideful in being skilled in a variety of areas.
Master negotiator.
Hands on approach to life.
Impulse to really live
Testing the limits
Need for variation
Excitement and light-heartedness
Spontaneous
Being able to react in a crisis
Love for tools
Charming, witty and fun
Waiting is painfulSlide6
ResponsibleStrengthRespect for authority
Establish and maintain policies, procedures and schedules.
Sense of wrong and right
Like organization, dependability, management and detail
Need to be useful and to belong
Backbone of a group
Values home, family, status, security and tradition
Seek relationships that ensure predictabilityCaring, concerned and practical
GoldSlide7
Cold Continued..
Strengths-Duty
Keys to personal success
Value order
Cherish traditions of home and family
Provide for and support the structure of society
Steadfastness and loyalty
Generous
Parental by nature
Makes sure everyone does right
Generous
Work ethic
Ceremony
Sense of history
Dignity, culture
Value order
Home and family
Establishing organizationSlide8
CompassionateEncouraging
Would give the shirt of their backs for another
Nurturing and harmonizing
Values art and expression
Desire to lead so others can lead a more significant life.
Seek harmonious relationships
Enjoys romance
Imaginative/difficult to fit in in schoolSensitive to discord or rejection
Responds to encouragement
Can believe and think outside of ones comfort zone
BlueSlide9
Blue continued..
Strength-Authenticity
Keys to success
Express inner me
Value honesty
Dramatic
Spiritual
SincereSympatheticNurturingFacilitator of human potential
Authenticity as a standard
Seeking reality
Devotion
Cultivating potential in others
Sensitive to subtlety
Seeking harmony
Needs to be listened to when needed.Slide10
ConceptualInvestigative mindQuestions everything
Independent
Likes things that require vision
Needs proof to believe
Values intelligence
Enjoy relationships with shared interests
Head over heart mindset
Work is playDrawn to challenges in careerLike to develop modelsDoes not linger on things already accomplished
GreenSlide11
Green continued..
Strength-conceptual
Keys to success
Thinks projects through
Investigates all options
Values intelligence
Self-motivated
Focused on goalsNatural non-conformist
Likes problem solving, designing, ingenuity and change
Self driven
Often seen as an outsider
Intelligence is prized and seen as its own reward
Appear wise beyond their years
Works well to delegate once the idea is perfected within
InvestigativeSlide12
Colors can become complimentary and conflictGreen and Orange compliment each otherGold and Blue compliment each other
Green and Blue conflict
Gold and Orange conflict
Why might this be?
CompatibilitySlide13
Compatible
Orange
Green
Spontaneous
Quick to action
Needs change
Work hard to have fun
Thinks through things that orange may miss
Likes to work quick yet efficient
Willing to move on to change when the action is mastered
Work is fun to them Slide14
Compatible
Gold
Blue
Likes structure
Needs rules to the game
Responsible
Organized
Values familyNeeds validation for a job well done
Needs structure to maintain free spirit
Open to rules and willing to work in a group
Brings creativity to structure
Values family
Nurturing and can value the gold’s workSlide15
Conflicting
Orange
Gold
Freedom is valued
Spontaneous actions are fun
Quick to make decisions
Don’t mind bending the rules
Value time away from family to seek individuality
Structure is key
Change and spontaneity create anxiety without planning
Need time to evaluate the situation and weigh each option
Don’t like breaking rules
Value family and together timeSlide16
Conflicting
Green
Blue
Value intelligence and education
Need proof
Decisions are made easily and with reason
Do not mind conflict and seek chances to demonstrate knowledge
Closed personally and need close relationships to share
Avoid drama
Value individuality and art
Can believe from faith
Difficult to make decisions because too many factors are considered
Do not like conflict and will avoid it
Open and willing to share
DramaticSlide17
What color is your child?Do you see personality conflict or compatibility?
How would personality impact the problems you currently see in you and your child’s relationship?
What color is your co-parent’s personality?
Do you see compatibility or conflict with your co-parents relationship with your child?
Questions to considerSlide18
Next sessionIdentify your child’s personality colorIdentify where you and your child conflict or are compatible in personality
Identify your parenting color
Learn how your parenting color and personality color work together
Identify techniques on how to work with a child of a compatible/conflicting color to your parenting color.
Colors ParentingSlide19
Colors ParentingSession 2Slide20
Fill out the parenting color quiz to discover you parenting colorUse the follow along worksheet to identify your color.
Analyze how your personality and parenting color interact.
Do you have a recessive color?
Finding your parenting colorSlide21
Do not endorse a “right style” nor compare
Separate well from children when needed
Allow children to search for independence and learn by exploration
Comfortable allowing others to join in the parenting role
Believe in a hands on approach to problem solving with children
Willing to try new and creative things to fix problems
Direct methods of communication-no “sugar coating”
Messy is okExpect children to do their best in what they pursue
Orange ParentsSlide22
CaretakerResponsible, hard working and dedicated to family
Important to do the right thing as a parent
Family members should keep their word
Task minder
Work before play
Family should be organized
My way or the highway
Need appreciationWant to be viewed as good parentsShow love by “doing”Tend to “do it ourselves” mentality
Gold ParentsSlide23
Nurture family needsCommunication and emotional connectedness is valued
Devoted parent
Put LOTS of energy into pleasing the family putting others before self
Sensitive to rejection
Prefer democratic discipline
Want children to be happy with their lives
Warn, affectionate and home centered
Enthusiastic and dramatic spokesperson for the familyRole of “friend in need”Can be inconsistent
Torn between what needs to be done and what feels right
Blue ParentsSlide24
Encourage intellectual potentialWant children to have initiative
Want children to fulfill their potential
Encourage investigation and question things that interest their children
Dislike wasting time on the mundane
Explain reasons behind decisions and influence other family members
Often “lecture”
Logical and objective style of parenting
Achievement is the rewardExpect family members to at least tryMay not praise easily
Green ParentsSlide25
Colors Parenting ChildrenSession 3Slide26
Investigate ways to parent individual children.Investigate ways to approach situations for individual children.
Identify ways to co-parent with another person to your child’s needs.
Parenting a Child of a Different ColorSlide27
Allow for choices to be madeWe do not always co-parent with someone of the same color.
In this case, parenting decisions may become conflicting and difficult to understand the others perspective.
Consider their desire for change and spontaneity.
Break large tasks into chunks
Create fun and energizing ways to approach mundane tasks
Orange childrenSlide28
Use their competitive edge to your advantageCreate rewards for tasks well done
Praise and celebrate when a task is completed
Conflicting Gold Parent:
Understand they want independence and will test your rules. Give them options within your rules to allow them to make decisions.
Your need for structure may be tested. Create a structure that will keep them in the “bumper bowling” mode of parenting. They can roll in the lane, but you established the bumpers so the ball will not go in the gutter.
Orange ChildrenSlide29
Create structure and guidelines for this child.Charts, reward systems and rules for tasks are preferred
Praise the child for a job well done when task is completed.
Gold children are people pleasers. They want to know their actions were
noticed
Allow the gold child to have a place in the family.
Gold children like to belong and value family. Giving responsibility will help the
g
old child to have a sense or belonging.
Gold ChildrenSlide30
Create activities to allow for the gold child to plan. Yet, help them understand when the plans don’t go as scheduled.
Vacation activities, parties, shopping trips, menu’s and other items.
Discuss how they will respond if the plan goes other than how they planned.
Conflicting Orange:
Understand that your child becomes anxious with spontaneity. Neatness and organization is prized with them. They may want to spend time with family having structure around meal times, holidays and other family oriented activities.
Gold ChildrenSlide31
Blue children tend to have their head in the clouds.
Allow for creativity and recognize their expression
Don’t give too much attention to the “drama” while recognizing their need to be heard.
Discuss difficult topics with the understanding they become emotional easily.
Help them to understand a healthy balance of giving to others and giving beyond themselves.
Conflicting Green:
Understand that your rash approach can be harsh to the blue child. Approach situations with a warm understanding and open mind to their feelings. Praise and listen to the blue child with the understanding that they value your opinion and presence.
Blue ChildrenSlide32
Are often seen as “loners”Give them opportunities to work with other children. Understand when they feel uncomfortable
Will question everything and plead their case
Need to be heard, leaving the problem at “because I said so” will not do for them
Tend to use their intellect to get their way
Have a hard time understanding without facts
Need thorough explanation for discipline
Green ChildrenSlide33
Nagging is their kryptoniteDevelop a system where you can request actions from the child without having to “
nag”
Allow them to have space within reason
They value their alone time
Alone time allows for thinking and recharging
Conflicting Blue:
Blue parents often want to smother the green child with love. Allow thinking time, opportunities for independence and recognize achievements. Green children conceptualize and rationalize. Create a form of communication that is health and works for you and the green child.
Green ChildrenSlide34
Understanding how your child approaches and sees life will aid you in your parenting style. Not all children will be parented the same.
Each child is individual and needs will vary from child to child, age to age and situation to situation.
Parenting is not A+B=C. You might start with A and B only to equal PURPLE!!
ConclusionSlide35
Hayward, K. (2001). True colors parenting: How to foster deeper
family
ties and a harmonious home
.(
pp. 12-35). True Colors International.
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