Deceil L Moore LCSW NADDCC Mischa Staton MA NADDDSP Attachment Issues AND ID For DSPs Deceil L Moore LCSW NADDCC Mischa Staton MA NADDDSP Goals for Today Understand what Attachment is and how important it is ID: 616049
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How to cope in a world without subtitles.
Deceil L. Moore, LCSW, NADD-CCMischa Staton, MA, NADD-DSP
Attachment Issues AND ID– For DSP’sSlide2
Deceil L. Moore, LCSW, NADD-CC
Mischa Staton, MA, NADD-DSPSlide3
Goals for Today
Understand what Attachment is and how important it is
Understand what Attachment Disorders/ issues are
Understand how Attachment Disorders develop
Understand the implications of unresolved attachment issues
Understand how to respond to persons with attachment issues in order to help them grow and thrive in positive ways
Recommit to those we care for and about and help them to overcome the challenges they face because of attachment issuesSlide4
Remember: Many, many different ways to respond to any one situation. Examples presented are not “recipes” just one set of circumstances under which someone adapted with attachment challenges.Slide5
Attachment Disorder
What Do You Think of when You See Those WordsSlide6
Reactive Attachment Disorder:
Persistent failure to respond to interactions in a developmentally appropriate way
Diffuse attachments (indiscriminate social ability w/ marked inability to exhibit selective attachments
History includes: persistent disregard for child’s emotional needs/physical needs or repeated changes in primary care giver Slide7
Have learned to distrust that the world will provide for them
People With Attachment Issues. . Slide8
And what becomes of a child who becomes an adult without some help with attachment issues?
Possibly traits of:
Dependent Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality DisorderAnti-Social Personality DisorderAnxiety
PTSD
Depression
Narcissistic Personality DisorderSlide9
Kim—frightened, somatic complaints,
frequent talk and some gestures of harming
self, has personal dreams—makes plans does not follow through
Example: Kim:Mild delay, some anxietyFather chronically ill, Mother has some symptoms of mood disorderPattern of one parent or another in the hospital frequently, person left struggled to care for themselves let alone her
When older sibling leaves, “about killed mom”Slide10
Attachment Theory
John Bowlby wrote “Attachment and Loss” in 1969; Mary
Answorth, Cindy Hazan, Phillip Shaver and many othersThe idea that quality of attachment to primary caregivers has long lasting impact on emotions and behavior; impacts behavior in adults as well
Laws/policies have been changed in responseSlide11
What is Attachment?
A reciprocal, enduring, emotional and physical affiliation between a child and a caregiver. It is the psychological connection between people that permits them to have significance to each other.Slide12
Healthy Attachment Cycle
Progress toward Trust (Not)Slide13
Trust vs Mistrust
Attachment comes in cycles—
Think of a baby—one time of being fed not enough but several, leads to calmnessAfter several successful completions of the cycle, the child begins to trust
After several unsuccessful completions of the cycle, child begins to adapt or have difficulty (anxiety, depression)Slide14
When children Learn trust--
They can trust and cope, less likely to act out or panic
If Caregivers are a secure base and a safe havenSupport, welcome, comfort, protect, enjoy
Children—and those with attachment issues can:Safely explore the worldSeek interactions, delay interactionsGive informationAssist in organizing the child’s feelings/reactions
They turn into people who trust. . . . Slide15
Attachment/Trust Cycle Not Successful
*
B
egin to not expect, give up hope about needs being met
*Might begin to figure out ways to meet the needs themselves (ODD)
*Probably have difficulty developing empathy
*Might have difficulty being independent
*Might have difficulty relating to anyone
*Might have difficulty making sense of how they feel/what they need and do
*May have difficulty expressing what they need
*This can lead to more difficulties relating Slide16
Attachments help with
Developing and maintaining trust
Conscience DevelopmentDeveloping
healthy relationship
Developing Identity
and self-esteem
R
egulating feelings
Developing language
Developing brain structures for later use
Organizing the nervous systemSlide17
Caregiver’s Role in Attachment
Be Accessible Be Responsive
See the beautyEnjoy the personBelieve in themSlide18
Challenges to Positive Attachment for Persons with ID
Extended stay in ICULack of reciprocity (sensory integration, cognitive challenges, physical challenges)
Caregiver grief or guiltHigh level of family stressA child with disabilities may have difficulty responding to the caregiver in the attachment
cycle; attachment might be too much at timesFrequent moves and/or change in caregiverSlide19
Little relief for care givers, increase pressure on care giver for attachment
Fear of attachment related to repeated surgeries or health concernsUnease/feelings of incompetency with ID/challengesMisunderstanding of appropriate expectations can lead to abuse/neglect
Sometimes or told. . . “he’ll have to but put somewhere”—can affect believe that attachment can/will/should occurSlide20
Years later—less apparent but symptoms give CluesSlide21
Example: Bella
BackgroundSensory challenges—
Some academic challengesBehavioral issues arise (aggression, verbal aggression—seemingly without antecedent) Slide22
Categories of Attachment Challenges
Avoidant/inhibited/unattachedLots of movement not much connection-
Unaware of what is going on for others-Difficulty communicating and with emotions-Self absorbed?No clear connection-
Touch??Slide23
Anxious/disinhibited
Lots of anxiety, especially about being abandoned, left aloneAvoid anxiety triggers (makes excuses)Will connect indiscriminately
-Come here/get awaySlide24
Disorganized
Rapidly shifting emotionsAggressive in response to fears or in response to many thingsDoes not typically show remorse
Example: Bella (behavioral examples)Slide25
But the need does not go away, just because you don’t trust. . . . “I am desperate to be close to you. . . But it scares me to death.”Slide26
Image to help you understand. . . . RADSlide27
When you get close. . . . You see lots of things like this surrounding the water. . . . . .
What Do You Do???Slide28
How
Caregivers often react to Behaviors related to attachment
…Get frustrated! Get scared!
Take it personally and see themselves as a failureGet told by professionals that they are “making it up”Eventually, give up -Placement is lostPerson stays but no attachment develops
Become
dysregulated
–
????????????????????Slide29
The Do’s in Responding. . .
Understand-this is scary
Reduce changes in relationships as much as possible (placements, therapists, etc.)
Find the “place in the room” you can always stand—”I care about you. I want to help. I can’t let you hurt you or anyone else.”Have appropriate boundaries you are willing to enforce
Do LOTS of bonding activitiesSlide30
Don’t Take It Personally. . . .
Individual is working in a world whose assumptions are different from yours. . . .
Often individual get very afraid when they start to feel comfortable with someoneThey often work to chase you away so that they’ve had control of you leaving. . . It is less painful that way. You can help by: Believing that everyone wants to attach – they just might not know how
It also helps to: Be patient. Don’t give up. Don’t personalize.Slide31
Responding to Behaviors
Be firm and clear
Have appropriate boundariesExpress that you careSupport that he/she has a choice is choosing“Join” with them—be disappointed in outcomes with them, be excited about rewards with themTime In as opposed to Time Out
Help them see outcomes as related to choicesSlide32
What Do you Mean?
Situation: (In response to a new caregiver) “No! This is so stupid. I don’t need this! “ Stomps out, later calls saying thinking of killing self
Possible responses:I sometimes don’t like meeting new people either.You sound very upset. I get that. What can I do to help you?You are so strong and have adapted already so much. It does feel unfair. You have choices. I would be willing to talk through those with you.Slide33
Practice. . . . .
1) Talk of robbing banks and killing peoplePanic and go to extremes if mild indication of changes especially in care givers
“You are the only one I can trust.”Gives 2 cars away that is still paying onSlide34
Good News!!
Attachment is not an event—it is a process.
Any time that you are able to participate in an attachment activity together that completes the cycle, you have moved one step closer in helping the child heal.Slide35
Attachment Talk
I want to help. . . . I know that you are smart and can make good choices. I want to help.
I am excited about what it will be like when you. . . Shoot! I’m disappointed that that won’t work out now. What do you think we should do?Slide36
Helpful Attachment ActivitiesSlide37
We can strengthen the therapeutic relationship by doing some of these things together within appropriate boundaries. . .
We can help bring further resolution of issues by helping important people in their lives do some of these things with the individuals with attachment issues
***** red asterisks mean that these can be done in the therapeutic relationshipSlide38
Increasing Eye Contact
Maximizing Touch
Moving With Your ChildNurturing Through FoodEnhance CommunicationGetting Warm and CozyJust Have FunSlide39
Have Fun
Laugh with your adolescent about things that, at first, shouldn’t be funny (teacher fell out of chair but wasn’t hurt)
*Make something durable together
*Cheer for the same team*Tie-dye a shirt for everyone in the family
Color with your child
*
Complete a jigsaw puzzle together as a family project
*
Buy a paper crown. Take turns wearing the crown. When you wear it, no chores for you that day.
Agree to alternate serious talk with “fluff” talk
*
Buy and wear matching t-shirts
Blow bubblies
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Get Warm and Cozy
Make or buy a soft, warm blanket to use while watching television, reading,
etc
Put his gloves and scarf in the dryer for a few minutes to make them warm. He’ll go to school with a comfy feeling.Make a safe place for them*
(let them change things in the office)
Tuck a blanket around the child in the car on a cold day.
Pitch a tent in the back yard and get in with the child.
Steam up the bathroom and then everyone draw on the mirror.
Offer tea/coffee/hot chocolate-go and get it form them, remember how they like it
*
Talk about something you have in common for a few minutes
*Slide41
Enhancing Communication
Read the funnies together on the couch
Listen to and learn the individual’s favorite song. Teach him one of yours
Pick a book and read parts of it together every day. (A Safe Place for Caleb)Make a list together (famous rabbits, superheroes, candy bars)*Tell the individual you need help with something and let them participate.
Make a life book with the individual. Let them interview folks and help research for it. Share stories .
*
While waiting for an appointment, make a bet on the color of the professional’s tie or shoes. Celebrate whoever wins
*
Trace a shape on individual’s back with your finger. If he guesses the word, he gets a point.
Really listen
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Nuture
Through Food
Serve a banana split for dinner. For no reason. Just because. Just once. Buy a fancy plate at a garage sale. Serve the
ind meals on it.Buy some M&M’s together. Sort them by color. Eat them together. (or talk about what candy you like or games you play with food*)Give and honor choices
*
.
Serve the
ind
something special—i.e. pumpkin spice latte today
*
Have a tea party. Trim the crusts from sandwiches and cut into triangles.
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Move Together
T
oss a ball or beanbag*
Blow bubbles. Chase them around and pop them.*Fly a kite.*
Catch fireflies, then let them go.
Buy sidewalk chalk and help the
ind
draw a mural.
*
Buy balloons. Blow them up and play a balloon chasing game.
*
Play badminton
*
Make a snow sculpture. Put water in a spray bottle, add food coloring, and spray the sculpture.
Swing together.
*
Go for a ride in the country
Have an Easter egg hunt in the summer
“Chase Rocks” at the oceanSlide44
Maximizing Touch
Share a delightfully smelling lotion on you and have him reciprocate. Talk about what smells you like and what you have in common.
*
Offer appropriate touch (hand hug, side hug, display appropriate hug etiquette, pat on the back, arm touch)*Sit on the same side of the table and put a puzzle together.*
Play tag
*
Sit together and look at a magazine or book together
*Slide45
Increasing Eye Contact
Get a Group photo taken with everyone dressed the same. Hang it prominently in the home and frame one for each child’s room.
Play Peek-a-boo or “I spy” and follow where each other are looking.
*Participate in face painting. Look at each other and name the ways you are alike.*
Put a sticker on your face right between your eyes. Don’t comment on it at all. The
ind
will look at you and laugh—eventually.
*
Talk about applying make up or tying a tie together, demonstrate as you go
*
Really look at the
ind
and appreciate things about him/her
*Slide46
What Helped with BellaSlide47Slide48Slide49
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