Peer Pressure Conflict Communication Styles Aggressive overly forceful pushy or hostile Passive unwilling or unable to express thoughts and feelings in a direct or firm manner Assertive expressing your views clearly and respectfully ID: 703611
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Chapter 6, 8, 9
Communication
Peer Pressure
ConflictSlide2
Communication Styles
Aggressive- overly forceful, pushy, or hostile
Passive- unwilling or unable to express thoughts and feelings in a direct or firm manner
Assertive- expressing your views clearly and respectfully Slide3
Ways to Communicate
Speaking
Listening
Nonverbal What are other ways of communicating?
Which ways do you communicate the most?Slide4
Speaking Skills
The key to good communication is to say what you mean
To ensure you do not sound disrespectful use “I” messages
“I” message- a statement that focuses on your feelings rather then on someone else’s behavior
They help you communicate your feelings in a positive way without placing blame EX: YOU- Why can’t you ever show up on time?
I- I really don’t like to be left waiting- it makes me feel like you don’t think I’m importantSlide5
YOU TRY!
Change the “YOU” messages into “I” messages:
You never listen to anything I say
I said I’d take out the trash, and I will! You don’t have to nag on me every five minutes!
You are always taking my clothes without asking.
You always ignore me when your other friends are around.
Why do you always have to bring that up? You always have to talk about the past, just end it!”Slide6
Listening Skills
Active listening- paying close attention to what someone is saying and communicating
Don’t interrupt
Show interest
Restate what you heard
Ask questions
Show empathySlide7
Nonverbal Communication
Body language- nonverbal communication through gestures, facial expressions, behaviors, and posture
Other ways of nonverbal communication?Slide8
Stack the Deck
For
this exercise, you will need a regular pack of playing cards and a lot of moving–around space. Blindfolds are optional (it takes a little longer).
1. Shuffle the deck of cards well and walk around the room to give each student a card.
2. Instruct the students to keep their cards a secret. No one can see the type or color of another's card.
3. Make it clear to students that they will not be able to talk during this exercise.
4. Instruct students to assemble into 4 groups according to suits (hearts, clubs, diamonds, spades) using nonverbal communication.
5. It's more fun to blindfold every student during this exercise.
6. Once students get into those groups, they must line up in order of rank, from ace to king.
7. The group that lines up in proper order first wins!Slide9
HEADS UP!Slide10
Peer Pressure
Peer pressure- the influence that people your age may have on you
Can have a positive or negative influence on your actions and behaviors
POSITIVE: peers may inspire you to try a new activity, encourage you to participate in community projects, involves not participating in risky behaviors or activities
NEGATIVE: may be disrespectful
towar
people they do not consider acceptable to their group.
Harassment- persistently annoying others; may include hurtful behaviors such as name calling, teasing, or bullying.
Engage in behaviors that go against their values
Manipulation- an in direct, dishonest, way to control or influence other people
-Making threats -Mocking or teasing -Guilt Trips
-Black mail -Bargaining -Flattery
-BribingSlide11
Resisting Negative Peer Pressure
Develop friendships with people who share your values and interests
Friends who have respect for your health and well-being will be less likely to pressure you into doing something that goes against your values
You will also find that it is much easier to resist negative peer pressure when you have supportive friends who stand by you and respect your decision.
Refusing to go along with a group may make them appear “uncool”Slide12
Assertive Refusal
Refusal Skills Steps
State you position- say no, and state your position simply and firmly
Suggest alternatives
Stand your ground- make it clear that you mean what you say, use strong body language, and maintain eye contact. If that still doesn’t work- walk away
Practicing assertive communication is the most effective way to deal with peer pressureSlide13
PRACTICE REFUSAL SKILLSSlide14
Conflict
Refers to any disagreement, struggle, or fight
Conflicts between people or groups of people are known as
interpersonal conflict
Common causes:Power strugglesPersonal loyalties
Jealousy and envy
Property disputes
Conflicting attitudes and values
Lack of respectSlide15
Responding to Conflict
Compromise-an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions.
Negotiation- the use of communication and, in many cases, compromise to settle a disagreement
Take time to calm down and think over the situation
Let each person take turns to express how they feel
Ask for clarification
Brainstorm solutions to the conflict
Discuss advantages and disadvantages to both sides
Agree on a solution
Follow up to ensure the solution has workedSlide16
Preparing for Negotiation
Choose the time and place carefully
Check your facts
Plan what you will say
TIPS-Stay calm -Listen to each other
-Attack the problem not each other -Take responsibility
-Avoid blame or name calling -Find a solution
-Open minded