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TIPS FOR PARENTS, TEACHERS, AND CHURCH LEADERS
LINDA MEI LIN KOH, Ed.D.GENERAL CONFERENCE CHILDREN’S MINISTRIES
BULLYING
Slide2B-U-L-L-Y-I-N-G
Why do we need to talk about this? Is bullying real? Is it happening? What is bullying?
Slide3IS IT HAPPENING?
IS IT REAL?
WHERE?
WHEN?
HOW?
BULLYING?
Slide4BULLYING IS REPEATED
VerbalPhysical Social or Psychological Aggressive Behavior by a Person
WHAT IS BULLYING?
Slide5Aggressive behavior by a person or group directed towards a less powerful person or group that is intended to cause harm, distress or fear.
WHAT IS
BULLYING?
Slide6BULLYING IS SCARING OR HURTING, ON PURPOSE, ANOTHER PERSON WHO CANNOT DEFEND HIMSELF OR HERSELF.
WHAT IS
BULLYING?
Slide7Verbal bullying Physical bullying Social bullying Cyber bullying
WHAT ARE THE
TYPES OF BULLYING?
Slide8Making reference to one’
s culture, ethnicity, race, religion, gender or looks
Name callingJokingSarcastic remarksTeasingConstant criticismDisplaying offensive postersSpreading rumors/Gossiping
VERBAL BULLYING
Slide9Hitting
PokingPinchingChasing
PHYSICAL
BULLYING
Slide10Shoving
Coercing
Destroying or stealing belongingsUnwanted sexual touching
PHYSICAL
BULLYING
Slide11Mobbing or ganging together
Scapegoating or blaming others for punishmentExcluding others from a groupHumiliating others with public gestures intended to put down others
SOCIAL
BULLYING
Slide12Using internet, phones or computers f
or text messaging or social media to:IntimidatePut downSpread rumors Make fun of someone
SOCIAL
BULLYING
Slide13IS BULLYING REALLY A PROBLEM?
How do we know the magnitude of the negative impact of bullying?What is the negative consequences of this behavior?
Knowing
STATISTICS
will open our eyes
to the true magnitude of the problem.
Slide14THE ANNUAL BULLYING SURVEY 2014
UKExperienced bullying before 18 years old45%Experienced bullying in a daily basis26%Bullied for personal appearance, body size, shape and weight36%Never told anybody that they are bullied39%Not satisfied from teacher’s support when bullied51%Bullied for prejudice/race, religious, disability, cultural discrimination34%Bullied for disability, extremely excluded socially63%Physically attacked61%Gone self-harm as a result of bullying30%Attempted suicide as a result of bullying10%Been sexually assaulted10%Confirmed bullying affected self-esteem83%Confirmed bullying affected their studies56%
A survey in 2014 of more than 3,600 young people in 36 schools and colleges across the UK highlights the current climate of bullying among teenagers, ages 13-18.www.ditchthelabel.org/uk-bullying-statistics-2014/
WHAT DO STATISTICS
SAY ABOUT
BULLYING?
Slide15Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics, US Department of Health and Human Services, Cyberbullying Research CenterResearch Date: 7.8.2014Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior manifested by the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when the behavior is habitual and involves an imbalance of power. It can include verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed repeatedly toward particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability. The “imbalance of power” may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a “target.”
http://www.statisticbrain.com/cyber-bullying-statistics/
STATES WITH HIGHEST LEVEL OF BULLYINGRankState1California2New York3Illinois4Pennsylvania5Washington
WHAT DO STATISTICS SAY ABOUT STATES WITH HIGH FREQUENCY OF
BULLYING?
Slide16http://www.statisticbrain.com/cyber-bullying-statistics/
Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics, US Department of Health and Human Services, Cyberbullying Research CenterResearch Date: 7.8.2014Bullying StatisticsDataPercent of teens who report being bullied while at school37%Percent of students who bully others often17%Made fun of by a bully20%Had rumors or gossip spread about them10%Physically bullied20%Threatened6%Excluded from activities they wanted to participate in5%Coerced into something they did not want to do4%
WHAT DO STATISTICS
SAY
ABOUT
BULLYING
?
Slide17Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics, US Department of Health and Human Services, Cyberbullying Research CenterResearch Date: 7.8.2014Percent of bullying that occurred inside the school85%Percent of bullying that occurred on school grounds, bus, or on their way11%Percent of victims that reported the bullying to someone at school29%Victims who were bullied once or twice during the school year2 in 3Victims who were bullied once or twice a month1 in 5Victims who were bullied daily or several times a week1 in 10Percent of middle schools that reported bullying problems44%Had personal belongings destroyed by bullies4%
http://www.statisticbrain.com/cyber-bullying-statistics/
WHAT DO STATISTICS SAY ABOUT
FREQUENCY OF
BULLYING?
Slide18Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics, US Department of Health and Human Services, Cyberbullying Research CenterResearch Date: 7.8.2014Elementary schools that reported bullying problems20%High schools that reported bullying problems20%Percent of middle and high school students who have had hate terms used against them10%Percent of students who avoided school or certain places because they were afraid of being harmed in some way7%Percent of teen weapon injuries that took place at school8%Cyber Bullying StatDataPercent of students who reported being cyber bullied52%Percent of teens who have experienced cyber threats online33%Percent of teens who have been bullied repeatedly through their cell phones or the Internet25%Percent of teens who do not tell their parents when cyber-bullying occurs52%Percent of teens who have had embarrassing or damaging pictures taken of themselves without their permission, often with cell phone cameras11%
http://www.statisticbrain.com/cyber-bullying-statistics/
WHAT DO STATISTICS SAY ABOUT
CYBER-BULLYING?
Slide19Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics, US Department of Health and Human Services, Cyberbullying Research CenterResearch Date: 7.8.2014STATHomosexual and bisexual teens are more likely to report bullying than heterosexual teensStudents with disabilities are more likely to be the victims of bullyingFemales are more often the victims of bullying than malesMales are more likely to experience physical or verbal bullyingFemales are more likely to experience social or psychological bullyingFemales and white students reported the most incidents of being the victims of bullying
http://www.statisticbrain.com/cyber-bullying-statistics
WHAT DO STATISTICS SAY ABOUT
THE
TYPES OF VICTIMS?
Slide20SEXUAL MINORITIES-LGBT’
SKANTO REGION, JAPAN2014Bullied by teachers12%Bullied for over one year43%Thought of committing suicide32%Injured themselves by cutting their wrist22%
The survey on the school lives of LGBTs, the first large-scale study undertaken in Japan, found that 68 percent of the 609 respondents experienced bullying in elementary, junior high or high school.
http://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2014/05/08/national/lgbt-bullying-rife-in-schools-survey/#.U-aUH
WHAT DO STATISTICS
SAY
ABOUT
BULLYING
?
Slide21SOUTH AFRICA
JANUARY 24, 2013Students worried about being assaulted with a weapon68%Students worried about being attacked78%BY RACE Whites69%Blacks54%BY GENDERMale63% among malesFemale71% among femalesBULLYING WEAPONSTeasing and insults52%Pushed, hit or beaten 26%By e-mail, cellphones, social media16%Believed bullies to have guns and knives45%
The survey in 2013 in South Africa polled 2,064 students,ages 13 to 21,and 1,015 family members,ages 18 to 34.http://www.timeslive.co.za/local/2013/01/24/57-of-sa-children-claim-to-have-been-bullied-at-school
WHAT DO STATISTICS
SAY
ABOUT
BULLYING?
Slide22Source: AFRICA WOMEN AND CHILD
MAY 2007 | KENYAStudents reported to have been beaten up or hit63%Blackmailed or threatened64%Called bad, nasty names71%Had tricks played on them68%Lies been told about them72%BY GENDER Female60%Male67%BY SCHOOLS National Schools70% experienced one form of bullyingProvincial Schools60% experienced one form of bullyingVICTIM BULLIES Bullied by person older than them30% Bullied by person younger than them10%
http://www.awcfs.org/new/index.php/features/education/238-bullying-in-kenyan-schools-higher-than-world-rate#sthash.o4JlnMqQ.dpuf
WHAT DO STATISTICS
SAY
ABOUT
BULLYING
?
Slide232011 Harvard School of Health Study
Slide24WHO WILL BE THE FUTURE OF THE CHURCH?
Who will be the church of tomorrow?Challenges are real.WHAT IS OUR ROLE in creating a bully-free environment?
Slide25WHAT PARENTS, TEACHERS ANDCHURCH LEADERS CAN DO
The Adventist Home“The Adventist home is a home where Seventh-day Adventist standards and practices are lived and taught, a place to which Seventh-day Adventist fathers and mothers are commissioned by Christ to go and make Christians of the members of the households. And in order to perform that tasks well, … [look] for all help they can possibly find.” Ellen G. White, The Adventist Home, p. 5.1.
AWARENESS
is very important.
Our response to bullying needs to be
PREVENTIVE and
PROACTIVE.
Slide26WHAT PARENTS, TEACHERS AND CHURCH LEADERS CAN DO
The Adventist Home“Ellen G. White … has touched upon every phase of the home, and offers specific instruction on many problems which gives so much concern to thoughtful and often anxious parents today.”Before she died, “she indicated her desire to get out ‘a book for Christian parents’ that would define ‘the mother’s duty and influence over her children.’The Adventist Home, p. 5.2.
AWARENESS
is very important.
Our response to bullying needs to be
PREVENTIVE and
PROACTIVE.
Slide27WHAT PARENTS, TEACHERS, AND CHURCH LEADERS CAN DO
The Adventist HomeThis book, The Adventist Home, a handbook or manual for busy parents, is the ideal “pattern … of what home can and should become.” The Adventist Home, p. 5.3.
AWARENESS
is very important.
Our response to bullying needs to be
PREVENTIVE and
PROACTIVE.
Slide28Coming home with damaged or missing clothes, without money they should have, or with scratches and bruises.
Having trouble with homework for no apparent reason.
Using a different route between home and school.Feeling irritable, easily upset or particularly emotional.
WHAT ARE THE
SIGNS
OF
BULLYING?
Slide29Feel lonely, unhappy, and frightened.
Feel unsafe.Feel something is wrong with them.Lose confidence.May not want to go to school.May feel sick.
WHAT ARE THE
EFFECTS
OF
BULLYING?
Slide30Shyness
StomachachesHeadachesPanic attacks
BULLYING
LONG-TERM
CONSEQUENCES
PHYSICAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL
Slide31Sleeplessness
Sleeping too longBeing exhaustedHaving nightmares
BULLYING
LONG-TERM
CONSEQUENCES
PHYSICAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL
Slide32BULLYING
IS
PRIMITIVE
Slide33WHAT
PARENTS
CAN DO
Slide34BULLY–FREE your HOMESchool is just an extension of our home.If children are bullied at home, they become bullies or they continue to be bullied at school.Re-learn your home discipline styles.Create a BULLY-FREE ZONE.
WHAT
PARENTS
CAN DO
Slide35BULLY–FREE your HOME“Purity in speech and true Christian courtesy should be constantly practiced. Teach the children and youth to respect themselves [and others], to be true to God, true to principle; teach them to respect and obey the law of God.” The Adventist Home, p.16.3. Begin with SELF to create a BULLY-FREE ZONE.
WHAT
PARENTS
CAN DO
Slide36BULLY–FREE your HOME“Every one of us knows that conditions in society are but a reflection of conditions in the homes of the nation. We likewise know that a change in the home is mirrored in a changed society.”The Adventist Home, p. 6.3.Begin at HOME to create a BULLY-FREE ZONE.
WHAT
PARENTS
CAN DO
Slide37B – Be aware of the signs and symptoms of bullying in the behavior of a child being bullied.U – Understand that the bully and the bullied both need help; they are both victims.L – Listen, listen, listen! Let them tell stories.L – Log every incident reported. Let the child keep a diary.Y – Yoke them into the Hands of the Almighty through prayer constantly.
WHAT
PARENTS, TEACHERS,
CHURCH LEADERS
CAN DO
Slide38F – Find new friends for your children where they can find genuine connection. R – Report to parents, school administrators, and organizations that can help.E – Express your love and concern to your children and other children in a higher level.E – Educate all persons involved and concerned.
WHAT PARENTS, TEACHERS, LEADERS CAN DO?
WHAT
PARENTS, TEACHERS,
CHURCH LEADERS
CAN
DO
Slide39Z
– Zero-tolerance to bullying be the aim from home to school and everywhere.O – Organize a parent coalition—no bully clubs—there’s credibility in a united group effort to express your concern.N – Never, never give up! Keep on fighting for our children’s right, the right way. Never encourage your child to retaliate physically.E – Expose and dispose of the bullying tactics.
WHAT
PARENTS
CAN DO
Slide40LET’S CREATE A
BULLY-FREE
ENVIRONMENT
Slide41LEAD TO STOP BULLYING IN OUR HOMES,
IN OUR SCHOOLS, IN OUR CHURCHES
TRAIN
YOUR
CHILDREN
TODAY
Slide42TRAIN YOUR CHILDREN TODAY
BUILD A CARING,
SECURE,
SAFE,
PEACEFUL
CHURCH OF TOMORROW
Slide43Blanco, Jodee. Bullying; Life Saving tips for
Parents of a Bullied or Excluded Child, Pediatrics Week via NewsRx.com, 2010. Sprung,B.,M.Froschl The anti-Bullying and Teasing Book for & B. Hinitz. Pre-school Classrooms, Beltsville, MD:Gryphon House, 2005.
REFERENCES
Slide44http://www.awcfs.org/new/index.php/features/education/238-bullying-in-kenyan-schools-higher-than-world-rate#sthash.o4JlnMqQ.dpuf
www.bullyingcanada.ca/content/239900Department of Education and Early Childhood Development, Victoria Canada , July 23, 2014www.education.vic.gov.au/aboutprograms/bullystoppers/pages//whataspx
REFERENCES
Slide45Government of Alberta
http://www.statisticbrain.com/cyber-bullying-statisticshttp://www.timeslive.co.za/local/2013/01/24/57-of-sa-children-claim-to-have-been-bullied-at-school
REFERENCES