Self esteem Characteristics of Low Self Esteem Social withdrawal Anxiety and emotional turmoil Lack of social skills and self confidence Depression andor bouts of sadness Less social conformity ID: 762896
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Self esteem
Characteristics of Low Self Esteem Social withdrawal Anxiety and emotional turmoil Lack of social skills and self confidence. Depression and/or bouts of sadness Less social conformity Eating disorders Inability to accept compliments An Inability to see yourself 'squarely' - to be fair to yourself Accentuating the negative Exaggerated concern over what you imagine other people think Self neglect Treating yourself badly but NOT other people Worrying whether you have treated others badly Reluctance to take on challenges Reluctance to put yourself first or anywhere. Reluctance to trust your own opinion Expecting little out of life for yourself.
Symptoms and Consequences of Low Self-Esteem Cognitive Faulty Self Image (The inaccurate view of oneself as inadequate, unlovable, unworthy, and/or incompetent) Inability to Discern Who and When to Trust Irrational and Distorted Self-Statements (Carries on an inner dialog in which he makes untrue/unproven negative statements to himself) Mind Reading and Projection (Thinks and believes that others view her in the same negative ways that she views herself) Overly Critical of Self and Others Reactionary (Overreacts to situations) Rigidity Self-Focused Storytelling
Emotional Depression DiscouragementFear and anxietyMixed Emotions Shutdown Emotionally (Appearance of) Shynesshypersensitivity
Behavioral Being Needy Chaotic Relationships Defensiveness Eating Disorders Perfectionism Poor Communication Promiscuous Wearing a Mask Hyper vigilance Lack of assertiveness, passive, aggressive Poor boundaries Poor relationships & social skills Self sabotaging
WHAT YOU CAN DO Praise the student in a specific and genuine way. 1.Students are experts at distinguishing feedback from empty compliments. 2.Comments that suggest thoughtful appreciation of their work, on the other hand, are meaningful to them. 3.Let the student know in specific terms what you like about her work or behavior. 4. If she is progressing slowly, praise her for small steps forward. 5. If you sense that she's uncomfortable being praised in front of her classmates, tell her in private or in a note.
What can you do: Show the student tangible evidence of progress. 1.Expressing confidence in a student's ability is important; pep talks alone might not be enough, however. 2.Help the student appreciate her own improvement by pointing to concrete signs of growth example -taping an oral reading at the beginning of the year and comparing it to a later performance. Showing papers from earlier in the year and contrasting them with later papers.
What can you do: Showcase her accomplishments. 1.You might read one of the student's compositions to the class.2. display her artwork on a bulletin board3. have her demonstrate how to do a math problem 4.an ESL student, invite her to speak to the class in her first language. 5. If the student has a particular hobby or interest, suggest that she talk to the class about it.
What can you do: Help the student feel important in class. 1. give the student an important classroom job or find ways in which she can help others. 2. Tell her you are giving her the responsibility because you are confident she can do it well. For example: deliver lunch money to the office, collect homework , help another student with a computer problem read aloud the school's morning announcements
What can you do: Engage the student in conversation about her interests. 1.A student can gain self-esteem from involvement in activities she cares about. 2. Find a few minutes every day to talk with her about her favorite hobbies, sports, television programs, or musical groups.
What can you do: Help the student deal with adversity. 1. If the student encounters academic difficulties, help her appreciate that failure is a normal part of learning. 2.You might tell her that Lincoln lost seven elections before being elected president of the United States.
What can you do: Encourage a sense of belonging .1. Students with low self-esteem often are isolated from their classmates. 2. organize a group activity that includes her. 3. ask a couple of friendly students to spend time with her during recess or lunch . 4.If students pair up for class activities, assign the student a kind and easygoing partner. 5.encourage the student's parents to arrange additional social contacts with classmates, perhaps suggesting potential playmates.
What can you do: Inform parents of their child's successes. 1.Consider sending home a note or calling parents when their child does something noteworthy. 2.Tell the student you are doing it. 3.it can brighten the student's day and engender positive responses from the parents to their child.
Signs of Confidence & Healthy Self-Esteem: Looks ahead, setting both long range and short range goals Establishes goals that are reasonable and likely attainable Doesn't procrastinate/is not a perfectionist/is a self-starter Accepts his/her own weaknesses and lack of skills Is highly motivated and determined to succeed Bounces back after a setback, moving forward again Trusts own ideas, perceptions, and opinions Has the courage to say what he/she truly feels and believes Is able to hear and benefit from constructive criticism Can make timely decisions after considering the options
Signs of confidence-2 Displays good social skills Has a history of far more successes than failures in meeting goalsKeeps moving to achieve goals in difficult times.Is open to both positive and negative feedback Learns from past mistakes rather than repeating them. Is willing and able to takes risksIs willing to cut his/her losses when a project seems doomed to fail Can change course when it is necessary to do so Is generally positive, energetic, and assertive Takes people at their word unless or until there is reason to do otherwise
Basics for improving self esteem: The need to give and receive attentionThe need to look after your body.The need for meaning, purpose and goals. The need for a connection to something greater than ourselves The need for creativity and stimulationThe need for intimacy and connection to others. The need for a sense of control The need for a sense of status and recognition from others. The need for a sense of safety and security.