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Session Six Fear Theme Threat of harm actual imagined expected anticipated misperceived Psychological or physical pain Evolutionary Loss of physical support or o bject moving rapidly into visual field ID: 529344

enemy disgust emotional anger disgust enemy anger emotional compassion physical succumbs meditate contempt attachment kindness fear loving heart love

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Cultivating Emotional BalanceSession SixSlide2
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Fear Theme

Threat of harm, actual, imagined, expected, anticipated, misperceived

Psychological or physical pain

Evolutionary: Loss of physical support

or o

bject

moving rapidly into visual field

Most of what we are afraid of is learned

Preset

actions:

Freezing

Fleeing

In most other primates, freezing occurs first, if threat still there then flees

Fear and anger easily alternate and fighting might be a response motivated by anger mixed with fearSlide4

Surprise

Briefest of emotions – typically less than 1 sec

Is a weigh-station rather than endpoint

Quickly converted in to anger, fear, disgust, enjoyable emotion

Must be both sudden and unexpected – something out of context

 All refer to things beyond the norm

Focuses attention on novel eventSlide5

Ordinary mental states:

Sensual craving

:

craving

and grasping onto

someone or something to make us happy. The experience of lust has the quality of “being on fire from within.”

Ill-will

:

a narrowing of perception that falsely identifies someone or something as 100% undesirable and an ultimate source of unhappiness.

Debilitating doubt

: doubt

or agitation and has the quality of “being hopelessly entangled in a net.”

Dullness

:

laziness and lethargy

Restlessness and worry

:

dispersed or dissipated attentionSlide6
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Disgust ThemeBiological theme

:

a

sense of oral incorporation of something that is deemed offensive and contaminating

P

reset behaviour

: to regurgitate/turn away/avoid

S

ocial disgust

: reject something offensiveSlide8

Cross-cultural differences in major trigger

In Japan, person who criticizes others or does not fit into the group

In USA, person who acts brutally or is racistSlide9

Fed-up DisgustHusband stonewalls wife’s anger, wife’s reaction is disgust  

“I am fed up” – disgust

W

hen anger gets replaced by disgust an intimate relationship is in serious danger

H

ighly predictive marriage will not surviveSlide10

Suspension of disgust in intimacy

O

ne of the characteristics of a loving relationship is the ability to suspend disgust

F

or partners and family: sexual intimacy, dealing with excrement etc. 

F

or intimate friends: admitting weaknesses, shortcomings, failings assumes there is a suspension of disgust 

“Love privileges another to see us in ways that would shame us and disgust others without the intervention of love” William Miller,

The Anatomy of Disgust

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FunctionsPhysical function

: to eject, repulse something potentially harmful

 

Social function

: suspension of disgust establishes intimacy and is a mark of personal commitment. May not just be a mark of love, but a way of strengthening love. 

Disgust motivates and justifies

genocide

. Use of terms like vermin, scum, lice.Slide12

DisgustSlide13
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Contempt

Signals the feeling of being superior, of not needing to accommodate or engage

A

sserts power or status

T

hose uncertain about their status may be more likely to manifest contempt to assert superiority over others

P

rimarily aimed at people

Synonyms: disdain, morally superior, condescension towards

I

n disgust, want to get away from object, but not necessarily in contemptSlide15
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Can be very harmful to targetWives of husbands who show contempt when trying to resolve marriage problem believed problems could not be resolved, marital problems severe

Had more physical illness in subsequent 4 years (not apparent for wives of anger or disgust)Slide18
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Reflecting on the Four Virtues of the Heart

Loving-kindness:

Far enemy: hatred

Near enemy: self-centered attachment

Succeeds: when it makes animosity subsideSlide20

Compassion

Far enemy: cruelty

Near enemy: despair or overwhelm

Succeeds: when cruelty subsides

Empathetic Joy

Far enemy: envy and cynicism

Near enemy: fixation on hedonic pleasure

Succeeds: an uplifting appreciation of virtue

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EquanimityFar enemy: attachment and aversion

Near enemy: cold or aloof indifference

Succeeds: when attachment and aversion towards others subsidesSlide22

Interrelationships of Four Virtues of the HeartIf loving-kindness succumbs to self-centered attachment, meditate on equanimity

If compassion succumbs to despair, meditate on empathetic joy

If empathetic joy succumbs to fixation on hedonic pleasures, meditate on loving-kindness

If equanimity succumbs to aloof indifference, meditate on compassionSlide23

In small groups discuss:

In moving forward

discuss how

you plan to use some of the tools of CEB in your everyday life…Slide24

Becoming Aware of the Affect Program Through RAIN

R

:

Recognize

what is happening

A

:

Allow

life to be just as it is

I

:

Investigate

inner experience with a caring presence

N

:

Non-identificationSlide25
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Life Exploration

Utilize RAIN during emotional episodes

Continue building inner resources through the daily cultivation of the heart and mind

Continue to develop emotional awareness by becoming more and more familiar with the components of the Emotional Episode Timeline as they manifest in your own life, especially triggers and emotional regulation

Uplift others through the power of kindness and compassionSlide27