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Advanced Counseling Certificate 2013 - 14 Session I : September 26 - 29, 2013 Pre - Reading Required : must be read prior to completing your writing assignment: The following books contain foundational concepts for Dr. Allender’s teaching content in Session 1 and are required reading. If you have read these texts in the past, please review them to refresh your familiarity with the content: To Be Told: God Invites You to Co - Author Your Future by Dan Allender ISBN: 978 - 1578569519 The Healing Path by Dan Allender ISBN: 978 - 1578563913 Required: must be read by start of September session: A General Theory of Love by Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini and Richard Lannon ISBN: 978 - 0375709227 Trauma and Grace: Theology in a Ruptured World by Serene Jones ISBN: 978 - 0664234102 Writing Assignment : Due by September 3, 2013 1. Read (or review) To Be Told and The Healing Path before you write your paper 2. Reflect on your childhood (age 0 - 18) and consider specific experiences from that time period that have impacted you and represent central and guiding tragedies of loss, pain, confusion, or harm . Your story selection could be a headline event such as the death of a parent, or perhaps something tha t seems relatively insignificant like a comment by your uncle about your developing body. Small events, though seemingly minor, can symbolize many other tragedies, and large events are things that you know to have significantly shaped your sense of being a nd you r understanding of who you are. “Our lives are filled with tragedy. But far more amazing, we live out our stories surrounded by an angelic host and a multitu de of stories that serve to put our lives in context and give meaning to our heartaches….And it is in the midst of our tragedies, b oth past and present that we will see how the waters of suffering have cut our terrain and formed the contours of our character. More than anythin g else, tragedies shape our identity and our character.” (p.74, To Be Told by Dr. Dan Allender) 3. Write the fo llowing assignment: a. Section I: Childhood Narrative (600 - 1000 words). Select and describe a specific narrative of an experience from your childhood that represents a central and guiding tragedy in your life. T he story you choose is meant to provide an illuminating window into your life. i. During Session 1 , you will be invited to read the Narrative to your small group as part of the professional learning and personal development process. b. Section 2: Analysis (1 - 3 pages, double spaced). Analyze this story by reflecting on how it impacts your current style of relating to yourself and to others. i. The Analysis portion of your paper will not be read to your small group. 4. Format

your paper to meet the following submission requirements: a) Combine you r written sections (both the Childhood Narrative and Analysis) together in a single document b) The Allender Center can only accept documents saved as Word files (PDFs, Mac Pages, etc. cannot be accepted) c) Include your full name as a header within the document ; make sur e your name is on every page. d) Double space yo ur text and do not exceed the writing limit s per section ( 600 - 1000 word Narrative; 1 - 3 double spaced Analysis ), or your paper will be returned to you for editing. 5. Submit your assignment by September 3, 2013 usi ng these instructions: a. Double check that you have properly formatted your assignment and have not exceeded the page limit (see above) b. Submit your assignment: i. Send your assignment via email to certificates@theseattleschool.edu . We cannot accept mailed hard copies . ii. In the Subject Line of the em ail, please write “ACC Session 1 Assignment” along with your first and last name. For example: ACC Session 1 Assignment – Erica Smith . “ Land the Plane ” and Other Suggestions for Writing Your Stories © Lisa Fann, 2009 Too often we write ou r stories as a newspaper report. We may write the sequence of events, but we avoid details and emotions. When we don’t fully engage with our stories, we keep a comfortable distance but rob ourselves of an opportunity for gro wth. As you write your story , keep the ideas below in mind. Land the Plane / We often tell our painful stories from a safe distance, say, 30,000 feet. We are in a plane, commenting on the ter rain below. “There’s a mountain. There’s a river. It curves and makes a gorge and then tumbles over that cliff.” Will you lan d the plane and walk around on the ground? Identify the plants, look for animal tracks, smell the wet dirt, listen to the birds. M ind the Gap / As you look over your story, look for gaps in time and for missing people. What have you skipped over? Did you include details for one part but use broad generalities to describe another part? Are there major characters who are conspicu ously absent in your story? Be aware of how you write about the most painful parts of your story. You can also think of this cin e matograph ically . Where do you look at your story through a wide - angle lens? Where do you do a close - up? Why do you zoom in some place s and zoom out in others? Use Your Senses / What do you feel? What do you see? What do you hear? Wise writers keep in mind the saying “Show, don’t tell.” Instead of telling the reader it was a beautiful day, show the reader by describing the sky, breeze, and scent in the air. Do the same thing as you write about emotions. Avoid words like angry or sad . Try writing about where you fe

el it in your body. What does grief feel like? Where in your torso do you feel anger? How does your face register shame? Follo w Strong Emotion / Where do you feel tears coming to your eyes as you write? Where do you feel disdain or disgust for yourself as a child? Where do you think, “I should have known better” or “It was my fault”? Where do you feel the flame of an ger? Write mo re about the emotion then, as you experienced it, and now, as you write. What did you do to survive? What vows did you make to avoid future harm? Embrace Complexity / Are you the victim of all your stories? Was your mother always wonderful and your father abusive? Are you letting someone off the hook because he/she “did the best he/she could”? What was the impact of those people who seemed t o be on the sidelin es of the action in your story? Advanced Counseling Certificate 2013 - 14 Session 2: November 21 - 24, 2013 Reading Required : must be read prior to completing your writing assignment: Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How the y Shape Our Capacity to Love * by Robert Karen ISBN: 978 - 0195115017 * Chapters 24 & 25 required The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller ISBN: 978 - 0465012619 Required: must be read by November session: The Neuroscience of Psychotherapy: Healing the Social Brain by Loui s Cozolino ISBN: 978 - 0393706420 Recommended Love’s Executioner: & Other Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin D. Yalom The Wounded Healer: Ministry in Contemporary Society by Henri J.M. Nouwen Bold Love by Dan Allender and Tremper Longman III Writing Assignment : Due by November 4 , 2013 1. Read The Drama of the Gifted Child , and chapters 24 - 25 in Becoming Attached before you write your paper. 2. Reflect on your own family of origin and its effects on your style of relating with regards to your marriage, parenting or peer relationships. Consider specific experiences and stories that can illuminate patterns and the environment that has shaped you. 3. Write the following assignment: a) Section 1: Family Narrative (2 - 3 pages, double spaced) . S elect and describe a specific narrative of an experience with your family that you feel depicts a particular aspect of the family system in which you were raised . i. During Session 2, you will be invited to read the Narrative to your small group as part of the professional learning and personal development process. You can choose to share only a porti on of your story or the entire narrative. b) Section 2: Analysis (2 - 3 pages, double spaced) . A nalyze the dynamics of your family & articulate your role in the family system. Then consider how this has impacted the way you relate to your current wo

rld, spe cifically addressing the following areas: 1. Your personal relationships 2. How you interact and operate as a therapist. i. The Analysis portion of your paper will not be read to your small group. 4. Format your paper to meet the following submission requirements: a. Combine you r written sections (both the Family Narrative and Analysis) toge ther in a single document b. The Allender Center can only accept documents saved as Word files (PDFs, Mac Pages, etc. cannot be accepted) c. Include your full name as a header within the document ; make sure your name is on every page. d. Double space y our text and do not exceed the 3 page limit per section (total of 6 double - spaced pages maximum) , or your paper will be returned to you for editing. 5. Submit your assignment by November 4 , 2013 using these instructions: c. Double check that you have properly formatted your assignment and have not exceeded the page limit (see above) d. Submit your assignment: iii. Send your assignment via email to certificates@theseattleschool.edu . We cannot accept mailed hard copies . iv. In the Subject Line of the email, please write “ACC Session 2 Assignment” along with your first and last name. For example: ACC Session 2 Assignment – Erica Smith . Advanced Counseling Certificate 2013 - 14 Session 3: January 30 - February 2, 2014 Reading Required Trauma and the Body: A Sensorimotor Approach to Psychotherapy * by Pat Ogden ISBN: 978 - 0393704570 * Chapters 1, 2 & 3 required Female Perversions * by Louis Kaplan ISBN: 978 - 0765700865 * Chapters 13 required – available as a PDF on our website – see below for access* * Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships * by David Schnarch ISBN: 978 - 0393334272 * Chapter 2 required – available as a PDF on our website – see below for access* * Treating the Adult Survivor of Sexual Abuse: A Psychoanalytic Perspective by Jody Messler Davies ISBN: 978 - 0465066339 *Chapter 3 required – available as a PDF on our website – see below for access* * The Power of Counter - Transference: Innovations in Analytic Technique by Karen J Maroda ISBN: 978 - 0881634143 *Chapter 3 required – available as a PDF on our website – see below for access* * The Wounded Heart by Dan Allender ISBN: 978 - 1600063077 (If you have read this text in the past, please review them to refresh your familiarity with the content) Here All Dwell Free: Stories to Heal the Wounded Feminine by Gertr ud Mueller Nelson ISBN: 978 - 1597527118 * *To access the PDF chapters of these texts, go to this private link: http://theallendercenter.org/cer

tificates/current - certificate - participants/ and enter the password: lincoln Recommended Seduction, Surrender, and Transformation: Emotional Engagement in the Analytic Process* by Karen Maroda *Chapters 1, 2 & 5 Writing Assignment – Due January 15, 2014 NOTE: This sexual development paper is not a requirement for fulfillment of this training. There are many reasons why a parti cipant may chose not to write this paper, and The Allender Center Staff will respect this decisio n. If you choose not to write this paper, you will need to contact us ( certificates@theseattleschool.edu ) by December 15 for an alternative assignment. 1. Read (or review) The Wounded Heart, Here All Dwell Free, and Ch. 3 from The Power of Countertransference before you write your paper 2. Reflect on the following: What is the history of your sexual development, and who have you become as a man or woman in response to your sexual history ? Consider your formative sexual events, your family of origin (including your attachment style, especially in light of the areas of triangulation), and attempt to see the themes that comprise your style of relating in reg ards to your sexual development and how those came to be. a. Questions to get you started: Note: These are only suggestions – you may have similar or very different themes to address. Please don’t just go through and answer all the questions that are listed here – choose the questions (and come up with your own if needed) that help to highlight and bring reflection to your own story, experiences, and themes:  What are the sexuality - related experiences that have brought you shame on a low, moderate, and high level?  Consider y our body’s developmental process (late, early , etc. ) and the effect on your sense of self?  What role has sexual abuse or misuse by another played in your life?  Consider your first and ongoing experiences of pornography and how it was brought to you.  Put words to the atmosphere of your home in regards to sexuality. Please don’t tell us your family did not talk about sexuality because even in the absence of talk there was a theme and presence of sexuality within your home. 3. Write the following assignment: a. Section 1: Narrative ( 600 - 1000 words , double spaced). D escribe a specific narrative of an experience that has impacted your sexual development. It will be important to choose an event you can approach already with some level of kindness. i. Writing Guidelines : How to think about this paper: Our sexual development is invariably interwoven with struggle and shame. We invite you to write your story up to the point where shame feels as if it is unaddressed. There is no valor in writin g or shari

ng stories in regards to our broken sexuality that only increase our shame. If at any point in the process you find yourself saying, “I don’t want to share this,” please honor that hesitation & address the shame before you go further with the de tails. Let it be said again, there is no gain in merely telling stories that are absent of kindness and care. Write the story up to the point where kindness & care is not possible. Then ponder what in the story keeps you from receiving the kindness of G od.  What this paper is not :  An itinerary of sexual sin  An invitation to solicit judgment and harm, to add contempt, or to quiet shame through confession ii. During Session 3, the small groups will involve inviting you to talk about aspects of your sexual development to the level that you feel comfortable. You will be invited to read the Narrative portion of your paper to your small group. You can choose to share only a portion of your story or the entire narrative; y ou are also welcome to refrain f rom sharing anything about this realm of your story in the group if that feels most honoring and safe to you. We understand this is a very difficult topic to engage, and your group leaders will help to set the frame for sharing in a way that feels safe and honoring. b. Section 2: Analysis (2 - 3 pages, double spaced). Focusing on the narrative you selected to write about in Section 1, write an analysis that addresses how this particular story has impacted and symbolizes your sexual development and identity. Who have you become as a man or woman in response to this story, and how have the themes that are present in the story impacted yours style of relating to others ? Consider this in light of your personal relationships, which could include your sexuality wit h your spouse and with others in your life, and then (paying close attention to the chapter 3 from the Maroda text) consider the implications for how these themes enhance or impede your engagement with others in a counseling setting. i. The Analysis portion o f your paper will not be read to your small group. 4. Format your paper to meet the following submission requirements: a. Write your paper in a Word document b. The Allender Center can only accept documents saved as Word files (PDFs, Mac Pages, etc. cannot be accepted) c. Include your full name as a header within the document ; make sure your name is on every page. d. Double space yo ur text and do not exceed the writing limit s per section ( 600 - 1000 word Narrative; 2 - 3 double spaced Analysis ), or your paper will be ret urned to you for editing. 5. Submit your assignment by January 15, 2014 using these instructions: e. Double check that you have properly formatted your assignment and have not exceeded the p

age limit (see above) f. Submit your assignment: v. Send your assignment via email to certificates@theseattleschool.edu . We cannot accept mailed hard copies . vi. In the Subject Li ne of the email, please write “A CC Session 3 Assignment” along with your fir st and last name. For example: A CC Session 3 Assignment – Erica Smith . Advanced Counseling Certificate 2013 - 14 Session 4: April 3 - 6, 2014 Reading List Required Love's Executioner: & Other Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin D. Yalom ISBN: 978 - 0060958343 An Altar in the World by Barbara Brown Taylor ISBN: 978 - 0061370472 Recommended Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life by Richard Rohr ISBN: 978 - 0470907757 Writing Assignment : Due by March 19, 2014 For this final assignment, w e are inviting you to consider your calling for the sake of the kingdom of God. We are asking you to consider both what you are to do on this earth and how you are meant uniquely to do it. It is possible you are clear about what you are to do and how yo u are meant to do it. It is also possible you are clearer on one or the other or not clear on either. We want you to consider what you are meant to do from the standpoint of answering the question: Where do I find my heart saying “Hell, No” and “Heave n, Yes”. And we will invite you to consider how you are meant to do it as you consider your themes, core stories, and style of relating. The goal is to take the next step to answer the question: How am I to live out my one and only beautiful life on th is earth? 1. Read & Review : Read An Altar in the World , and review all 3 of your prior papers from Certificate sessions 1 - 3 and any personal journaling you’ve completed during the program year. 2. Reflect and Journal : a. Based on the personal work you have done on your story throughout the year through writing, journaling, reflection, and small group work, select 2 - 3 primary themes related to your story that have been named most consistently in the work you have done with your group and through your personal reflection. b. Consider how the themes are related to and/ or are lived out through your style of relating. Write one story that details how your themes show up in an occasion in which your style of relating was quite obvio us. c. Connect your style of relating to the three categori es: Priest, Prophet, and King. W hich pattern is most dominant? W hich is of secondary strength? Which is the weakest? Once you are clearer about how your style of relating is connected to thes e categories write a few anecdotes about a situation in which you used your gifting to bring about significant good for a person or organization. Then writ

e a second anecdote on a time when you were called to exercise gifts in the weakest area and describe what happ ened for you and others? At this point once all this work has been done you will have a lot of significant data. The next part of the exercise is meant to help you organize the data and imagine the kingdom that Jesus has given you. 3. Write the following assignment: Jesus tells us that as he was given a kingdom by his Father, so he gives us a kingdom in which to exercise our gifts, talents , stories, themes, passi ons, style of relating, and Yes ’ s and No’s. We would like for you to create a coat of arms, a motto, and distinctive attributes or artifacts of your kingdom. a. Part 1 : Create a Coat of Arms for your Kingdom . Draw the coat of arms on a single sheet of paper that symbolizes most deeply the nature of your kingdom with a motto in Latin or English or any other language at the bottom. Consider all that you have written and reflected as you attempt to answer the question: what most distinguishes my Kingdom — what most reflects what is in my heart? b. Part 2 : Interpretive Key to the Coat of Arms (3 - 5 pages total , double spaced). a. Section 1: Describe the 2 - 3 primary themes and style of relating you identified during your reflection, and then write concretely about how those themes and style of relating are being used and tended to well , and where the re is a lack of care and use for your kingdom and other kingdoms. (This work is a way of providing a key to the coat of arms you have drawn.) b. Section 2: U se what you have written in Section 1 as a means of reflecting on your current job/ministry: imagine what must change for you to be c onsistent with who you are becoming. Consider as well what needs to be honored and celebrated as you hear God say “Well Done my good and faithful servant.” 4. Format your paper to meet the following submission requirements: a. If possible, please submit an image of your Coat of Arms drawing as well as the written portion of the Interpretive Key. If you are unable to send an image of the Coat of Arms, please remember to bring the origina l copy with you to the weekend, and only su bmit the written portion at this time . b. Include your full name as a header within the document; make sure your name is on every page. c. Double space your text and do not exceed the page limits per section (total of 3 - 5 double - spaced pages maximum), or your paper will be returned to you for editing. 5. Submit your assignment by March 19, 201 4 using these instructions: a. Double check that you have properly formatted your assignment and have not exceeded the page limit (see above) b. Submit your assignment: i. Send your assignment via email to cer

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