Kahina Parrish Counselor Discipline Types of Discipline Authoritarian unquestioned obedience is required amp little to no reteaching or explanation is given Permissive there are few rules ID: 485778
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Discipline Makes All of the Difference
Kahina Parrish, CounselorSlide2
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Types of Discipline
Authoritarian-
unquestioned obedience is required
&
little to no reteaching or explanation is
given.
Permissive-
there are few rules
&
limited
discipline.
Open-
The goal of discipline is to teach the child self-control. Parents provide discipline that is geared towards explanation
&
reteaching. Slide3
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Which type are you?
What type of discipline style were you raised in?
What did you learn from that experience?
What do you feel your child is learning now?Slide4
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What results from these discipline styles?
Authoritarian- The child develops obedience through fear, not understanding of the situation or need. This child may become rebellious, dependent on others, or submissive.
Permissive- This type of discipline instills aggression
&
selfishness. The child may grow up to be lawless
&
confused.
Open- This child is most likely going to learn to work with others
&
respect self
&
others. As an adult, this child is most able to make decisions while thinking of the needs of others, as well as self.Slide5
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Positive Parenting:
Developing your democratic style-
What is discipline?
Teaches the child life-long skills for good character, such as responsibility and self-control.
Protects the child
Instills valuesSlide6
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Effective Discipline:
Effective discipline uses real world "cause
&
effect" learning experiences. Effective discipline teaches children how to think for themselves. It doesn't just force them to obey. The world is a different place than 30 years ago. We don't want our children to just blindly obey.
Effective discipline is
proactive
. Parents find underlying causes of misbehavior as well as teach future desired behavior.
Effective discipline is mutually respectful: Treating the child as you expect to be treated. Although parents have far more experience
&
knowledge than their children, both parent
&
child have the same right of having their feelings
&
dignity equally respected.Slide7
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Effective discipline is ninety percent prevention
&
ten percent correction.
Effective discipline is kind, firm
&
safe.
Effective discipline is as fair
&
consistent as possible.
Effective discipline does not involve arguments or power struggles.Slide8
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“Children don't really misbehave. They act in inappropriate ways to get their needs met. The job of parents is to meet those needs
&
teach children how to get them met in socially appropriate ways.”
The big question is “how?”Slide9
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What are some of the effective methods of discipline that you have used to:
Get kids in bed on time
Get kids to do their homework
Get kids to clean their room
Others
…Slide10
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The first step is to set clear expectations for your
child.
Share these expectations with your child
&
be sure the child understands
them.
Show your child what you
expect.
Follow through with the established consequence
&
reteaching each
time.Slide11
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The most common discipline tools used for younger children up to preschool age are redirection, substitution, supervision, offering choices, changing the environment, ensuring enough nourishment, sleep, stimulation
&
attention. Most discipline at this age is
prevention
.
The most effective discipline tools used for older, school-aged children
&
teens are active listening, "I" messages, time in, changing the environment, modeling, related consequences,
&
problem solving. Family meetings are also especially effective for this age.
Time in= is taking a break to do something positive
I messages= I feel ________ when you __________
Related consequences= consequences that go directly with the action (if a child throws
&
breaks something, that child would clean up the mess
&
fix or replace the broken item.Slide12
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A crucial discipline tool often overlooked is meeting the needs of parents. Parents who are hungry, tired, stressed, need support
&
/or
a time-in don't often make the best parenting decisions.
You can't raise a child in a dictatorship
&
expect them to function as an adult in a democracy.
Many parents don't use punishment in raising caring, responsible children. It takes practice
&
plenty of patience — something every parent can learn. Your child will appreciate it.
Think about it: How has your method worked for you so far? Trying something new may mean doing discipline less.Slide13
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References:
http://www.nospank.net/arnall.htm
http://www.ces.purdue.edu/providerparent/Guidance-Discipline/MakingDiscPositive.htm
Thank
you!